Absentee parent?

[Nineja]

How often per week do you and partner go out (evenings and weekends) separately? We've an 11yo daughter and her mum is hardly at home. Fair enough if she didn't want to spend time with me but is it normal / acceptable for a parent to spend so little time with their child? Our daughter is shot btw.

I'd appreciate your feedback.

Our daughter is shot? Sorry OP I have no idea what that phrase means.

Shot?

Well, it depends. Some parents work long hours, or are generally very busy. Some may relish the chance to take a break specially if they've been a SAHP. And some might just be arses. What does your partner do, is she always out doing the same thing or does she seem to do lots of different things which take her from the home? Is it just the daytime or is it every night?

Hubby's ex did this quite a bit when DSD was little. Unfortunately this is part of the reason WHY she is an ex.

To me that doesn't sound normal at all.

Sorry for the typo. I mean that our daughter is great. (Not sure where shot came from! )

She does have a wide circle of friends but I feel our daughter should be the priority and the friends come second.

She and her family do tend to lean towards the "quality time" approach. But for me, being a parent is about just being there for the everyday humdrum, and a meal out or a trip to the cinema are nice things to do together but they don't make up for not being around night after night.