Hi all,
So today is my birthday and I have begun to realise that my oh can be so selfish.
We have two kids and we only get out about twice a year if that. We have no childcare help and often we are too bogged down with sleepless nights and working full time to bother.
It's my 30th and so I thought I'd make an effort to arrange something. It was also my friends birthday the other day so we arranged to go out with a few other friends last night. Unfortunately it was my dh works do last night and he had booked that first so he went there and I stayed in with the kids. My friends were busy with their families tonight so no way of switching days. That's fine. I asked oh if he minded coming home early so I could catch the back end of the night but he said no. Just to add his Xmas do starts at midday so plenty of hours to enjoy it and come home at a reasonable time for me to go out.
As a compromise he offered to take me out shopping and for a meal today. Thing is he never arranged anything or a got a sitter. So I did that myself.
Comes to today and he is massively hungover and tired from not getting in until the early hours. We ended up going shopping, rushing round for an hour. I did get some bits so I'm happy with that. Then coming home and eating somewhere local. All that is fine I'm not ungrateful. Except I would have liked to have longer to look round the shops and not be in and out. But dh was rushing to get back. I have never been shopping alone since having kids so wanted to make the most of it.
Then we went to pick up our children and the sitter offered me a drink. Oh asked if we could go home instead because he is tired and it's late (7pm). So I asked if he wanted to stop at the shop and grab a bottle of wine to have a nice evening together once we get the kids to bed, but he didn't want to and again he is too tired and getting an early night.
So all in all he's been too hungover to enjoy my birthday. I'm not usually that bothered about birthdays but it's my 30th and I'd have liked to do something different from our usual day to day with the kids.
Wibu to go get myself a bottle of wine and enjoy it on my own and sulk. I encourage oh to enjoy his Xmas do every year but it would have been nice if he came home earlier this year as a one off.