To ask a work colleague out?

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Will it make things awkward or should I go for it? We're both quite shy in that way but I've had a crush for a year and a half and can't keep it in much longer! I keep getting so close to saying something but chicken out. We work quite closely in a great team. I'm not sure if the feeling is mutual or not and get mixed signals but he's been on his own a long time and is shy. It's driving me nuts!

Ask him out for a drink... be subtle, then you can get a bit closer, see him in a social context out of work.

Somewhere with subdued lighting, nice gentle music. Then be sure to bellow "ey up, you give me the fanny gallops something chronic, Nigel" and lob some used grundies at him (don't have to be yours, be creative).

That's the magic of a first date

My work colleague was also very shy, had never had a girlfriend so was disinclined to make any moves. I like you was convinced something was there between us- I am pretty ballsy when it comes to these things so I made the first move, turns out he was dying to ask me but too scared.

We get married next May on our 6th anniversary! He is the greatest treasure of my life and I thank god I met him every day.

So to sum up....go for it! It may be the greatest thing you ever do.

Ah go for it! The best case scenario far outweighs the worst

I don’t think it is a good idea if you are in the same team to be honest. If he rejects you or if you date and it doesn’t work out then it will be awkward working together. Sorry but some work places wouldn’t be happy about it either. I would stay good friends for now.

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Right on the first bit though

Just ask him if he fancies going for a drink sometime. If he says yes, then obviously great. If he says no, or makes excuses, then you have your answer- but even then you can style it out, he doesn’t need to know you’ve liked him for ages or are really disappointed, so I don’t think it will necessarily make things awkward. Honestly- life is too short, just do it! And update us!!

Thank you for your views. I'm more inclined to go for it because I'll never know otherwise and it will be better to know either way. He's not the sort of person that would make it awkward if he weren't interested

MountPheasant - love your story!

Are you both in over Christmas? That would be a good time to go for a drink without it seeming weird?

My DH asked me out at work and we were married just less than a year after our first date. Go for it!

A work colleague asked me out ...It's our 20th wedding anniversary next year, with 2 teen DCs.

Go for it!

Faint heart never won fair gentleman. Go for it!

Thanks guys. I'm off for a few days over Christmas so thinking of messaging him and asking because that way if it's a no atleast I'll have a few days to swallow the embarrassment before I go back in haha