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To find this a bit *ehem* crappy...?

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BiscuitsMcSnugglepuff · 22/12/2018 19:40

So, I have an super amazing snuggle monster of a toddler who also happens to be a bit of poop machine - and a husband who seems to have a fear of nappies...

I am a stay at home mum and as such I do the lions share of the nappy changes, which is fine. It’s not exactly my favourite activity but it kind of comes with the territory of having a toddler.

DH however always seems to make a big song and dance about it. As soon as he smells something is off he yells “mummies job!” and generally I just get on with it. Every now and then I will ask him to change him, like this morning when we were getting ready to go out - when i do this it is not without resistance and he will moan but eventually do it if I’m doing something else.

Then before little one went down to bed he had gone again and I asked him to change him while I got things ready... so he said “no, you do it, I’ve changed him already today” and put the changing mat down facing me and put babe down for me to change him. Then when I spun him back round to him, he said “I’ll remember this next time you want me to build a flat pack!” Hmm

It really wound me up as usually I just get on with it and he may change him say once a week (or less), but I also don’t think the two things are comparable at all!

Would you be at big peeved as well?

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KurriKurri · 22/12/2018 20:27

I tell him that if he adds up the number of times he has built flat packs, and compares it to how many times you have changed nappies, he will find he is seriously in arrears and needs to do all the nappy changes from now on until DC is about out of nappies.

What a childish twat he sounds.
I'd ask him why he thinks you are the only parent responsible for keeping your child comfortable and looking after his basic needs ? - did he think when he decided that bringing a child in to the world was a good thing to do, that child would never poo?

allthegoodusernameshavegone · 22/12/2018 20:28

You are both sound like idiots really. Train the snuggle monster to walk to Daddy

SushiMonster · 22/12/2018 20:30

Maybe the snuggle monster could activate the poop machine on daddy’s head?

Are you a crunchy mum as well?

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BiscuitsMcSnugglepuff · 22/12/2018 20:30

I will admit, these responses did make me smile in that I’m not alone and I can rest assured I’m not being petty!

Don’t get me wrong, in other ways he really is fantastic and I know he adores us both, but the nappy escapades really irritate me! Today just took me over the top!

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mumsastudent · 22/12/2018 20:31

evil grin - tonight when he is asleep put a days worth of ripe nappies in open bin beside his side of bed with note = daddy's job empty bin :) (make sure you are awake before him) :)

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BiscuitsMcSnugglepuff · 22/12/2018 20:39

I do think it gets to me because it comes across as he thinks it’s beneath him, but shit happens... and in the case of our boy, 2 or 3 times a day!

He does work extremely hard which is why generally I’m pretty lenient, but sometimes you just have to get on with it! And I do also do nearly all housework, cooking and obviously child care even if I don’t work!

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MumMumMum1 · 22/12/2018 20:44

My OH has the worse gag reflex ever, you only have to talk about shit & he gags... but he changes our dc’s nappies shit & all, because his their dad & he wanted these kids to! Mummy’s job, arse hole. Don’t stop asking because it’s less hassle OP!! He’d love that.

Missingstreetlife · 22/12/2018 20:55

All these things he does 'for you' not for his child or household, because it's all your job. You could pay someone to do a flatpack. His attitude is stinky

eefa658 · 22/12/2018 21:10

I would be fuming. The dirty nappy would be on his head by now.

MumW · 23/12/2018 10:28

I'd be tempted to empty them down the loo until they cause a blockage and then cry Daddy's job. 😂

lifecouldbeadream · 23/12/2018 10:32

Are you married to my Brother? Idiotic isn’t it?!! I call him out in it. He has no shame....

Pachyderm1 · 23/12/2018 10:32

Your DH is a twat. My Dbro has a 6 month old and he has done every single nappy that has ever occurred while he has been at home, to give my SIL a break since she does the bulk of the childcare while he’s at work and she’s on mat leave. I am constantly astounded by how many men I read about on MN are just unspeakably lazy and selfish arseholes!

MulticolourMophead · 23/12/2018 10:32

He needs to get on with the nappies, it's a parent's job.

As for flat pack, the joke in our house is that DD (18) is Queen of the flat pack, she's very good at it.

Coronapop · 23/12/2018 10:34

You need to learn to make flat packs! It's not hard.

Parisbun · 23/12/2018 10:43

What does he do when you go out and leave them alone? Does he change the nappy or leave it until you get back?
My cousins exh used to take the baby to a neighbour to change when he was left with the baby. He is an EX for that reason.

formerbabe · 23/12/2018 10:43

Do you ask him to make several flat pack pieces of furniture every day?

HollyandIvyarelivingitupagain · 23/12/2018 10:54

I remember the time exhs parents were visiting.I was cooking.Mil said DDS nappy needed changing,exh went take her and mil said oh no that's mummies job .There was a small exchange of opinions and I turned off the oven and stove and meal prep.took my dd.I didn't return until exh told me dinner was ready.Mil never said anything like that to me again,I think my ex gave her a bit of a talking too and luckily is a good cook and knew better than to poke a mummy bear with a stick.

Bobaboutwhat · 23/12/2018 11:04

“Mummies job”......oh dear

Kemer2018 · 23/12/2018 11:31

Bellend! Tell him to stop being a baby and get on with it!
Be bloody minded and use YouTube for flat pack tutorials. I did! I'm crap at diy but thought I'd be fucked if I'm waiting for him to come home before i do dds desk.
After much swearing, me and dd did it. 😁
She loves her new desk.

Ilikeknitting · 23/12/2018 11:47

I hope you will not even consider having another child with him! Because he will promise to ‘try harder next time’ but he is being very disrespectful to you.

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BiscuitsMcSnugglepuff · 23/12/2018 14:14

Oh my god Hollyandivy that’s next level!

And as for the flat pack comments... he had made a quick one earlier that day and I am hopeless at them... but then that doesn’t detract from the fact that he is always actively avoiding nappy duty regardless!

Parisbun I’ve actually never gone out and left baby with DH - well, I literally went down the road and got milk once which took 5 mins, but that’s it! In the whole 15 months he’s been here. However, there have been more than one occasion where I have treated myself to a bath and when I come done baby has just gone.... conveniently Hmm

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JustDanceAddict · 23/12/2018 14:16

My dad changed my nappies - I was born in the 70s - tell your dh to get with the 21st century ffs.

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