I am literally done at the amount of times I have heard this today.
You should only stop contact for violence etc.
What about abandonment / emotional abuse because I think letting your child down time and time again is 100 percentile emotional abuse.
I stopped contact ( well I have said he can see her but it will now be through key worker and contact centre if he bothers to do what he needs to do )
Back story
- left her when she was 2 weeks old fighting for her life
- has seen her maybe twice a year despite having contact the last weekend of EVERY month.
- never showed up or rang when she had open heart surgery to see if she was ok.
- I care for her ( very poorly ) 24 hours a day he never shows, never pays and never answers his phone to her.
- he turns up with his mum once a year on her birthday the week of Xmas to act father of the year then dissapears again.
- last Xmas / birthday he ruined by promising he was coming and taking her some where, but went on a lads holiday for 3 weeks and lied saying it was because he couldn’t get the time or work.
- this week has obtained a credit card in my address despite never living here, and attempted for mutiple loans.
When questioned not even a sorry just I needed the money to pay of bank charges.
( I claim as a single parent so this could effect the financial support I do get to look after her)
When I try to make him see that he needs to be around or that things need to be consistent he just threatens to report me and take me for full custody ( I know he wouldn’t do the custody ) but has previously rang SS on me spouting lies because I couldn’t do one thing he wanted me to do.
Luckily I’m genuinely a mum who tries her hardest who although isn’t perfect has been by my daughters side in hospital for years and there was enough witnesses to say things he was saying wasn’t true.
He lied about being on drugs 3 years ago then got arrested and sectioned because he had a drug induced psychotic break down.
But yet I am the bad one for saying no more open content ( I have to be present as his not trained in her care and is a little frankly useless at being responsible ) so the only option I have is it to be in a contact centre.
But apparently according to others every child deserves a dad ( which I agree with ) but surely they deserve a dad who is not going to harm them emotionally ?