DP staying away 2 weeks after DS born

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So DP is field based but organises his own work calendar.
First baby due next Friday (and will be here next Friday!).
DP now tells me he has an evening event with his work to attend and will be staying away overnight on the 15th (this is unpaid event).
I feel that 2 weeks is a bit too soon to be planning to be away especially as I have medical issues which could flare after birth.
AIBU to kick off about this? Have suggested to him to give it at least a month before he does over night stays.
TIA

You will most likely cope okay, but I would be upset in your position. How has he reacted to your pregnancy in general? Is he enthusiastic and involved?

Maybe dont kick off but maybe make him aware that plans may have to change, depending on how things are going.

You will manage and it will be fine.

Unless your medical issues make mobility etc very limited/painful. If he can't rearrange is it possible to get someone to come stay with you for back up?

Yanbu to not want him to, ywbu to kick off about it

Do you have a C section or induction booked in because the baby may not have been born or you could be in labour!!

I think it's okay for him to plan this, provided that if things don't go smoothly, he's willing to pull out at the last minute.

Wait and see. He can always cancel if you're not well when he's due to go. Kicking off is rarely productive.

I guess you will have to wait and see. You may be fine or you may not. How do you know baby will arrive next Friday? Are you having a section?

I would probably have felt nervous too but in reality it would have been fine. That said I had no medical issues. Is he able to cancel if needed?

Thanks everyone!
Have discussed it with him now (nice and calmly ) and he can see it from my perspective. He's going to go but drive back afterwards so he's here for the night which I appreciate is an effort for him so I'm very grateful.
I'm having a section as I have severe inflammatory arthritis which has flared up right at the end of pregnancy. He has been very supportive throughout the pregnancy but I think he over estimates my confidence as a first time mum (I'm terrified!).
Thanks again x

I think it’s far too soon and he really should have managed his time better. I would suggest he pays for a night nurse / doulla to spend time with you in his stead post-birth.

Given your update, I would absolutely want him to be home, I know how debilitating arthritis can be (being in pain can be exhausting in its own, never mind with a tiny newborn and recovering from a difficult pregnancy and section)

Glad you discussed it together and have come up with a solution.

Hope your section goes smoothly for both of you and congratulations on your impending new baby! The first few weeks are a shock to the system (but awesome!), I spent most of it lurching between being absolutely amazed at this tiny creature and terrified I was doing it wrong