Football over family

[Storminateacup74]

AIBU to ask my hubby to miss a game of footie over the festive period. there are 3 matches this week and he won't miss any of them. He has a season ticket to a premiership club so it is very expensive and he says he cant justify not going as it is money wasted. Unfortunately we have 3 family get togethers on these 3 days. He hates my family anyway so is glad to miss out but is also missing out on a day with his family. I don't mind going on my own with the kids but I get so many comments on how selfish he is. He will not miss a game. Is this selfish? I am from a family where my dad and brothers don't follow football so they cannot understand how it is so important. Also my dad always put my mum and his kids before anything whereas my hubby puts football first. Any other football widows out there with this same problem!

Football trumps family. It's the law

Laughing that her extended family should have organised gatherings around his football fixtures!

I think the only question OP is, do YOU think he's being selfish. If you don't mind doing things yourself then it's not a problem. If others think it's selfish, just tell them it works for you as a family. Or, just agree with them.

I think YABU to insist he doesn't go but I come a football loving family (Dad has been a season ticket holder at a Prem club for 40+ years) in a football loving city and plenty of Christmas has always been arranged around football.

My DP on the other hand has zero interest in football and was a bit the first Christmas we were together and I said meal times on Boxing Day were dependent on fixtures. Ten years later he's sort of used to it

I can't believe people are suggesting that the entire family should arrange their christmas parties around one person's season ticket. I'm sure other members of the family had events they gave up attending to go to the family party!

I would veto DH getting a season ticket again if it meant he was then obliged to attend every match in place of family events.

TO be honest it's nothing to do with football. What if OP joined a running/drama/book/art club and expected to be able to go off for events whenever she wanted and leave DH alone to attend family functions and look after the kids all day.

You can't stop him having a season ticket - he's an adult who's presumably got a job... why shouldn't he?
It is a bit tight of him not missing any over Christmas, my dh doesn't though. He's at one on New Year's Day which doesn't fuss me but has gone on Boxing Day in the past which has bothered me as it's Christmas Day take 2 with the other half of the family.

Well come on, unless they go drinking and tale the whole day, it's what, 2, 2.5 hours, 19 or so times a year? (Admittedly my lot go away as well ocaisionally.

People who like football, love Christmas because of the sheer number of games being played. Loads of points up for grabs; it's a very exciting time.

Wow a mix of messages from both sides. There was a home game today an away game on boxing day and a home game on new years day. Today's Xmas get together to be fair was originally booked for tomorrow but had to be changed duento my brother's work commitments. He generally always goes on boxing day and pays for an away ticket if is an away game. It is just becoming stupid because if it is a football date and i have known about it for months I do try and work round it but sometimes this justnisnt possible. I suppose because I don't follow football I find it hard to understand.

I couldn't be with a man like this. I hate football and everhtbing about it, but DH likes to watch a game sometimes when it's on TV. He'd never, ever let it have an impact on family life. It's just a bloody game - he needs to get a grip and put his family before a bunch of overpaid men-children kicking a bag of gas round some grass.

So you know he goes every year on boxing day and on NYD if its a home match. And todays do was rearranged anyway so he would have been able to attend otherwise. That puts a very different slant on things. YABU

It's obsessive and selfish but there's very little to be done about it. Football fans must watch their football come hell or high water.

Agree with everyone he is selfish. And the ticket doesn't get renewed next year

She's his partner not his mother.

I'm sorry but as an avid football fan, I have to say YABU.

My DH is season ticket holder and very, very passionate about football but family trumps football every time. We try to arrange things around home games if possible but he would never choose football over family obligations.

My dp plays rather than goes to games. We've had kids in the hospital I'll, he still goes, birthdays he still goes. I'm surprised we can get a holiday, even then he tries to arrange us arpund his matches. It's just boring now and I don't even care anymore. I have given up, he will be too old to play soon anyway.

Football/family
Family/Football

No blooming contest. Especially someone else’s family

I bloody love football

YABU - today is a normal Saturday match. Boxing Day is a traditional day for a match. New Year’s Day - well presumably this is instead of a match next weekend, so you could have made plans for Saturday or Sunday instead?

Who are these controlling people who think the OP should "veto" his season ticket next year?

Your gathering today was originally arranged for tomorrow. You know he's a season ticket holder who attends matches. I don't see why he should have to go to these family gatherings, especially if it's all about what other people say.

Hmm, see mine doesn't hardly even watch it on the telly. He's very scathing about armchair fans.

I'd happily go to the football to avoid my in-laws, but I'm somewhat obsessive about my team.

Football every time.
Both me and DH are big fans of separate clubs, both of us season ticket holders.
My club is back home abroad. I will be on their terraces, while DH is cheering his team on at his club.