We never have family time

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My oh started working full time in June this year. Since then we've had about 3 family days together and every single weekend it's all about his friends. He's 26 next month and we have 3 kids together. He very much prioritises his friends over us but will deny that if I bring it up in conversation. He has never ever been family-orientated. He's very loving and caring and there when I really need him but he's not interested in spending time with us. He goes out drinking every weekend, goes and plays sports, goes for evenings round his friends houses and I try to compromise with him but he says staying home with me is boring. Struggling to find a medium with him and over Christmas and the new year it will only get worse I think. Any ideas please?

You have an overgrown teenager as a DP.
He does as he pleases. Does he spend any time looking after his own DC or are you Mum to 4 (not 3) children?

He's single.
You're not

He's single.
You're a single mum of 4 dc.

Time to end this arrangement that only works for him. Tell him to get out and he can look after his dc on his contact days.

He's very loving and caring and there when I really need him but he's not interested in spending time with us
No he isn't, you need him to be an active part of your kids life and he is not there.
No-one says that partners have to spend every waking minute together but they need to be happy to spend sometime together and to be told your too boring to spend time with is just awful.