to not want to do xmas

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My father is in a home and dying.
My mother is depressed and upset.
Her sister is dying.
Her other sister has dementia.
Her BIL has broken his neck.
I lost my job recently.
I am retraining and hate it, I know it's a job I don't want to do anymore.
Our house move has fallen through twice.
We are atheists and so xmas seems like an empty celebration.

Well there is the choice to celebrate it or not? Or could maybe celebrate Yule / solstice instead, or the idea of getting through the darkness by hibernating this time of year.

Absolutely sod it off then. Do you have some time off? Go for a long walk/watch a box set/eat your favourite food/have long baths and entirely ignore Christmas.

I’m sorry you’re having such a rough time.

Sounds like a tough time OP, just be kind to yourself. If doing whatever christmas traditions you have would cheer you up do them. If it would make things harder don't do them. Maybe just use the day as an excuse for a bit of a treat - even if that's just a lie in and a long bath.

You've got so much going on that it would floor most of us.

YANBU.

Just make time to be kind to yourself in all this. It's just a day and there's so much build up to what it should be. For most people it's just a chance to get together while drinking and eating too much. For many others it's not that lovely relaxed time for a number of reasons and people can end up feeling low because Christmas is built up into something it really isn't.

So just be kind to yourself.

Here's to a better 2019 for you

FFS had a phone call, dying aunt taken a turn for the worse. DCs looking forward to Xmas so can't be cancelled. thx for the lovely messages.

I'm 60, there's only the two of us (no kids) and I'm fed up with the whole thing.

But you've got a lot to feel sad, depressed, etc about and to feel entirely disinterested in Xmas is natural. That said, your kids are looking forward to it - and it might just provide a small diversion for you in all this dreadfulness that's going on in your life.

Sorry to hear that you are going through all this OP. At times like this no matter how hard it is we have to try and dig deep and concentrate in the things that are good in life and the things you can be thankful for. Having family that are going through terrible things, enough to make you sad - you can turn this around and look at it in a positive way. You are blessed enough to have family around you that you love and obviously love you enough for you to feel upset when things go wrong. Look after yourselves and your family and hopefully things will look up xx

Thanks. A bit of xmas cheer today - a meal out with my DBro and sisters which was lovely.

Glad to read today has been a better day