To not want to take baby to hospital to visit

[lboogy]

My BiL has broken his leg and DH wants to take 4 month old dd to the hospital to visit. I'm worried about infections and dd has only just gotten over a cold. AIBU?

No you're not.

A four month old is not at any particular risk of infection. Orthopaedic wards are usually not hotbeds of droplet transmitted infections. The baby will be fine.
There might well be a no children visiting policy though.

When you say ‘wants to take’ at 4 months I doubt baby will notice who they are visiting and having worked in a hospital really the least people visiting the better.

So a little baby is really surplus to requirements?

YANBU Would they even let her in? DH was in hospital when DD was 11 mo. I asked if she could visit (her own father), and was told it was permitted, but it carried risks. I wouldn't have taken her to see a more distant relative. I've certainly visited wards which prohibited under 12's (for example) so your DC may not be allowed in anyway.

I personally wouldn’t take a baby into a hospital unless necessary.

Broken leg no. Dm had cancer and I took ds - with staff blessing - onto the ward every day. He took his first steps to a delighted audience.

No you're not. Why does your dh want to risk your 4 month old who is too young to have a fully developed immune system and not old enough to be fully immunised? And has been recently unwell too. His brother has a broken leg but other patients have other illnesses and are potentially infectious. Tell him baby can visit when BIL is back home.

Depends on your area but you might not be able to. Our trust has banded all under 12s from visiting as well as other strict controls to prevent norovirus out breaks.

Maybe ring the ward and ask your advice. I have asked before on different wards and been told they don’t like children due to cross infection but it’s best to ask.

It's quite common for hospitals to only allow patients own children

I don't think it would put the baby at risk but what's the point? Can't your DH just visit his brother?

I absolutely wouldn't take a baby into hospital in winter if I didn't have too. Even an orthopaedic ward will be a hot bed of germs. Especially as the hospital is probably boiling!

It's a broken leg, surely he'll be.out soon, visit him at home

Cherry lots of patients on ortho wards will have infections too especially this time of year when the fight for a bed throws patients in any ward possible.

Lots of patients will have CAP and HAP not to mention other infections you see regularly.

Completely ridiculous thing to do. Why take the risk with such a young baby over a relative’s broken leg?

Has BIL asked for the baby to come along?

Seems like an odd thing to do, to be honest.

I took my 3 month old DD to see my dh's dying grandad as he wanted to see her but wouldn't have visited someone in a more stable condition.

You may not be able to. DD never met my grandma because we weren't allowed to take her in as she was only 3 months old.

Wouldn't do it. I have a tiny one the same age and to honest I doubt it would be a restful visit for either the patient, the parent or the baby. Your husband would be better pff going on his own, a crying baby would only upset other patients. Also the hospital is a hotbed of infections this time of year and you would be risking a norovirus Christmas, which nobody wants!

I use to be an administrator on hospital ward. We discouraged children visiting and said no to babies under 1 year regardless of whether there was infection on the ward.

My DMIL was quite seriously ill in hospital when DD was about four months old. I did not take her in and DMIL was understanding. We just FaceTimed when DH went in to visit her.

Hell, no! Keep baby at home. Why does a 4mth old need to visit an uncle they don't really know yet who has only broken a leg - not exactly life or death - can wait to visit at home in a few days time, surely?

Thanks everyone. I thought it was a silly request but BIL is much older than DH at 77 And DH thinks it will cheer him up

I'd take a Baby onto an ortho ward, checking who was in there, first.

The Baby is more 'at risk' in a supermarket were other children are. But if you're the really careful type and aren't out and about with her, then I can understand saying no. Except its both your Baby and you both get a say.

How could you check who was In there first birds :s

As a RN in America I would never encourage infants being brought to a hospital-I've seen babies crawling on the filthy floors in private rooms! Recently my patient had a two week old great grand child visiting! I've seen drug resistant superbugs that only respond to one antibiotic and there's a 50% mortality rate associated with it! Your BIL isn't dying he has a leg fracture! If someone was dying I'd say keep baby in car outside switch caregivers to see the relative to keep baby safe!