To not go to my work Xmas night out

[Absofuckinglutely]

I'm knackered. Single parent, work full time. In fact, working today 9.30am-2pm. This is my busiest time of the year for my job and it's been crazy this week.
So, finally finish work 2pm today until the 27th, and then have the Xmas food shop to do - I'm hosting this year. Dreading the supermarket.

Thing is, it's my work night out tonight, bring a party to a party thing. Thing is, I'm just so burned out that the thought of having to get ready and go out is so unappealing. I just want to get into my pyjamas and have a night to myself at home, chill out with some nice food and a film.

Would it be awful if I didn't go? I'll lose the money I paid, and I'll feel like a total party pooper, but I'll get a decent rest before the onslaught of Christmas.

What do you think - go and hopefully enjoy once I'm there, or stay home and put my feet up?

my husband felt the same this year about his, his was last night.

Instead he came home we drove around with the kids to see Christmas lights then came home pjs on pizzas in the oven then ice cream it was bliss OP.

He said hes never going again hes woke up all fresh and not with the week long hang over and is looking forward to a good drink over Christmas instead.

Do it OP stay at home.

Your working hours are just horrendous, this needs to be changed ASAP. Your self care needs to come first. Why are you hosting?!?
You are DNBU not going to the xmas do but pay attention to your health before it pays attention to you!

Thanks, I've been feeling bad for not wanting to go, and as if be turned into a boring old fart in my forties. It's so nice to have some encouragement to stay home and not feel guilty! X

Don't feel bad if you don't go OP.

IMO those colleagues that make a fuss about it are probably secretly jealous because they didn't want to go themselves.

@Bumbalaya
Why is working 9:30am -2:30pm horrendous? It's a four and a half hour shift which would work with school hours?

MrsStrowman - today isn't horrendous, but that's on top of 9am -7pm every day this week. It's my busiest time of the year.

Yes, 9:30-2:30 are quite nice working hours I think?

Anyway, do what you like, I often find that social do's I dread end up being quite good fun, but if you are too tired just take a break :)

I'm reading this as work full time plus all Saturday morning. You sound exhausted. Socialising is meant to be fun. I would 100% stay at home. You will benefit from the rest and your colleagues will probably hardly give your absence a second thought once they are into their second drink. Just tell them you are knackered and giving it a miss.

Do you know bumbalaya in rl? How did they know your working hours?

haha I read it as 9:30am-2:30 am (I was up all night with cold excuse me!)

How many others are going? I would personally make the effort - it's awful when people drop out at the last minute and hardly anyone turns up. I gave up organising work social events because it's really disheartening when people say they'll come but don't turn up.

@screamingvalenta there's only 6 of us, which is why I'm feeling so guilty about not going. Am worn out and feel at the end of my tether generally. I've got so much to do in the next couple of days at home, and this night out just seems like an extra chore I could do without. Wondering if I should drive and just go for the meal and come home again, but then everyone will be on at me for being a bore. Urgh, bloody Christmas. I usually love it, but it's been a hell of a time lately.
Thanks for all your input x

Yes, maybe you could just show your face for the meal and then leave - that sounds a good compromise. It is possible you might enjoy it once you get there, too.

Just make up an excuse.

Little Johnny/Jane has just been sick and I don't want to give you all some weird sickness thingy so I'll dip out - happy christmas all and see you on the 27th x.

What did you do in the end?

It's bloody 4pm and I still haven't decided.

We're meant to be meeting at 6.30pm Just finished my massive Xmas food shop and about to drive home, still have to put it away and then if I'm going I need get showered, hair washed and dried, slap on...... aargh!

Just go. You won’t have guilt hanging over you. You might even enjoy it. Think it’s not great if you drop out and there are only six of you.

I didn't go to mine this week. Got home and just wanted to cry at the idea of going out again, so figured that was a pretty loud message to myself. Thought I might feel bad the next day when people were talking about it, but I didn't, just felt relieved.

I wish I'd not bothered going to mine! So if you want to duck out it's fine by me.

Now would be a great time to come down with a mirgine

I was just wondering about a migraine.

God I hope none of my colleagues are on mumsnet. They're a lovely bunch, I'm just so utterly done with this week already and want to get my Christmas mojo back for tomorrow rather than be tired and hungover.

I didn’t go to mine. No way did I want to go out on mad Friday. DH didnt bother with his either

Instead we had port and cheese and watched crap Christmas films. It was definitely the right decision, which might make us boring, but who cares