My partner of 1 year

[Allyally78]

My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and he has never ever taken me out, it isn’t through lack of money he just hasn’t took me anywhere. He doesn’t do anything in the house because he works so he says but I work too just as hard as he does. He only seems interested in me when he is drunk but also talks about his ex’s a lot even calls me his ex wife’s name I know this isn’t normal nor correct but he suffers from PTSD and was actually wondering if this has anything to do with him being like this with me.

Once living together I wouldnt expect to be "taken out", we would decide what we were doing and go out together. Expecting you to do all the housework and going on about his ex is is not acceptable.

You have only been seeing each other 1 year which is nothing really, still getting to know each other and he is telling you he is an arse. It will only get worse.

He is bottom of the barrel, ditch him and find someone better. Get to know them properly before living together so soon.

Once living together I wouldnt expect to be "taken out"

I've been married for 15 years + and my DH still occasionally takes me out! You don't have to behave like an old married couple even if you are one.

Does he drink at home or does he go to the pub ? I can see zero positives in this relationship. End this relationship, take yourself out with your friends and family. Join some clubs. Meet new people. After 1 year or 50 years you can still enjoy dates and days out together. New year, make a new start !

LTB, raise your bar, and don’t move in with your next bf so soon.

Get shot.

What do you get out of this relationship and why do you think it's normal?

Cos it's not.

Do you think perhaps he had a hidden agenda and really just wanted a home provided, domestic needs met and sex on tap?

He's no partner, he's a shitty flatmate.

Well, you don’t live TOGETHER. You might have the same address but it isn’t together. I’d say, like everyone else- leave ASAP.

I've got PTSD. I don't treat people badly.

I left the house and his sorry arse

Just seen your update OP. Well done and merry Christmas to you!

Wow well done! Hope you have a merry Christmas knowing you’ve left him behind.

All the best for 2019!

You don't have to behave like an old married couple even if you are one

@Thentherewascake We discuss when we want to go out and where without me being "taken out", I would think the latter is more old married couple than deciding equally together where to go.