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To think dh is being a whiney arse?

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avenueq · 22/12/2018 00:09

So dh's last day at work was Friday 14th, not going back till 2nd of Jan

This week while he was off me (teacher, part time) and kids still at school.
He said before the week to tell him stuff that needed doing and he'd be happy to do them.
So I said could he pls do the usual household tasks - normally I do 90 % of them, this week I still
Did about 30 %.
Also asked him to
Take stuff to post office
Take stuff to dump
Buy iphone for dd for xmas
Investigate options for a new car
Pick up a click and collect in town
Wrap some presents
Do five school runs

So Monday he had about 8 hours to himself, Tuesday the same, Wednesday about 10, Thursday 6 and Friday six.

The dump and the phone took him a couple of extra trips as he didn't check opening hours/stock before going.

He's been in a pissy mood all week. Today it came to a head and he erupted saying I ruined his holiday by having him run around all week, that asking him to look for a new car was a huge job that I shouldn't have asked him to do.

Aibu to think he's being ridiculous? I think all the jobs could easily have been done at a leisurely pace in two days, leaving three days free - not my fault he was disorganised. Yes I do get more time off than him but when I'm off I'm always with the kids, including a youngest ds with challenging sen. I normally do all these jobs while working - and in my work weeks I never ever get time to myself, cos I'm either at work or withn ds.

I am so 

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Haggisfish · 22/12/2018 00:12

Twat. Yanbu.

pumpkinpie01 · 22/12/2018 00:12

Yep he is being a whiney arse ! That list is easily doable and still have spare time he has lots of hours there.

madcatladyforever · 22/12/2018 00:12

Normally I'd say give him a good kick up the arse but at the moment if anyone so much as looked at me never mind asked me to do something I'd have a complete meltdown.
So I can see both sides really Smile Flowers

avenueq · 22/12/2018 00:14

@madcatladyforever I feel the same but then I still had to work this week! I figured by him doing these things we could both relax from today, whereas I'm now just pissed off.

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Stormy76 · 22/12/2018 00:17

He is being an arse, he just wants to sit around all week doing nothing. Nothing you asked him to do was hard work ......he sounds quite lazy

VimFuego101 · 22/12/2018 00:30

That list wouldn't even come close to filling a day. YANBU.

madcatladyforever · 22/12/2018 00:33

I know avenueq, men are delicate little sulky flowers really Smile

avenueq · 22/12/2018 07:01



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Chloe84 · 22/12/2018 07:30

I know avenueq, men are delicate little sulky flowers really

Hmm This is code for just let him be.

DearTeddyRobinson · 22/12/2018 16:09

Yeah that's about one and a half days worth of jobs. Useless eejit. What are his good points?!

SpaceDinosaur · 22/12/2018 17:54

Turn it back on him

"Oh, so it's ok for you to expect me to do all of these, the housework etc etc (literally list what you do) in addition to my job and have absolutely no down time because I'm running myself ragged but I DARE delegate to my partner and expect him to adult and he turns into a stroppy child?

I gave you a list which would be achievable in a day had you pulled your finger out your arse, planned and actually got on with it instead of wallowing in self pity, moping and blaming me for not doing every fucking thing in your life.

Grow up"

...I don't tolerate this bull crap.

ButteryParsnips · 22/12/2018 17:58

Yeah, you weren't actually supposed to ask him to do anything, were you? He just wanted the credit for having offered. Hmm

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