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Would neighbours find this offensive?

23 replies

LollipopLadiesRock · 21/12/2018 18:21

Our neighbours have lived across from us since around late spring and I've spoken to them a few times, he's cut a patch of grass for us and we kept an eye on their house when they went on holiday a few weeks ago. They're more of a "keep to themselves" family.

For Christmas I've bought some Christmas cards to send to our neighbours we're friends with and the neighbours I've just mentioned have got a cat who visits us nearly every day to see my autistic DD, sneaked inside a few times and just sits in our window looking out. He loves getting cuddled and played with and I reckon he must be quite lonely being an only cat. We have four of our own and only two get along with him but he's not keen of them to be honest and would rather spend his time with my DD.

Anyway I've let DD write out their Christmas card saying "To [cat's name] and family, merry xmas ect. from house X] and also stick a drawn picture of their cat in the envelope.

My DD asked if she could also wrap a cat toy up and we can post it through their letter box and I said that fine but I think it might be a bit cheeky now? The Christmas card is already addressed to their cat which I hope they find a bit funny and they know their cat is often coming to ours which they seem to be fine with and they've had a laugh about. But would it insinuate that we care for their cat more they than do and are trying to "look after it" ect?? Which we don't at all.

Shall I just forget about the cat toy and post the letter or also get them a little potted plant or something along with the cat toy which would mean I'd have to bump into them to give it whereas I'd just have to post the cat toy through their letter box. We're doing one last shop on Christmas Eve so I'll probably forget to buy a cat toy anyway.

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Purpleartichoke · 21/12/2018 18:23

I seriously doubt they will be offended. Even the biggest stick in the mud should find that adorable.

AllKinds · 21/12/2018 18:23

It's a sweet idea but I'd just stick to the card, then depending on how they respond (they might not appreciate it, you never know) then it can always be a next-year idea?

MirandaGoshawk · 21/12/2018 18:26

I think the card is sweet too, but maybe the toy is a bit OTT. Keep the toy for the cat to play with in your house!

Calvinsmam · 21/12/2018 18:27

I have cats and would LOVE that.

MirandaGoshawk · 21/12/2018 18:27

I wouldn't get them a plant, because then they'll wonder if they have to get you something.

Mercurial123 · 21/12/2018 18:42

If someone bought my cat a Christmas present I'd be delighted.

LollipopLadiesRock · 21/12/2018 18:57

Thanks for the quick replies.

I think I'll leave the cat toy out as DD's drawing is in the envelope too and maybe in the new year I'd tell them I'd just picked an extra cat toy up for their cat. I often buy dog treats for our elderly neighbour and I've given their little boy a wall sticker for his bedroom before as my DS didn't want it. They've also actually given us two potted plants before (he's a gardener).

I am sort of known as the "generous neighbour" Blush

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BettyBitchface · 21/12/2018 19:01

Ahhh, so cute.

Just do it.

If they don't think that's sweet of your lovely girl, it would be good that you find out they are miserable sods now anyway.

icelollycraving · 21/12/2018 19:01

I’d think you were stealing my cat. Maybe I’d think you were a nice cat lady. It depends on my mood on the day.

EnglishRose13 · 21/12/2018 19:39

I'd find this hilarious and adorable.

Briansbathrobe · 21/12/2018 19:41

I would think it was lovely!

YesItsMeIDontCare · 21/12/2018 19:46

We have Christmas Cards

"To Leroy & Family",

"To Leroy & Staff" and

"To Leroy & His Humans"

from various neighbours.

As a cat lover I say it's A Good Thing. 😁

BottleOfJameson · 21/12/2018 20:54

Like PP I think anyone who was offended by that would have to be the grumpiest grinch in the world. Anyone else would find it super cute.

SandunesAndRainclouds · 21/12/2018 21:01

I like it too. If you’re worried, maybe knock on the door and say that you hope they don’t mind but DD adores their cat and wanted him/her to have a gift too.

TemptressofWaikiki · 21/12/2018 22:27

That is adorable! I think most pet owners would be touched, especially if it is from your DD. What a lovely thread and what a lovely DD. We have neighbours, well they live a bit further down our street who adore our greyhounds. Their DS always hugs and kisses them when we pass. We got presents from him to the dogs before. We were so pleased.

Calvinsmam · 21/12/2018 22:31

My cats give the cats we catsit for down the street Christmas cards and gifts.

SPOILER ALERT.

It’s actually us that send them.

nikkylou · 21/12/2018 22:45

Unless you've wrote in the card ' we love x cat more than you' or 'to x cat, who we love, cos you don't'.
I think you're over thinking.

The cat seems a big part of your life, it's perfectly okay to acknowledge that with a gift to the cat.
Sod what the cat's staff think.

But the cat's staff will likely think it is adorable, and I can't imagine who would be offended by a cat toy.

Spicylolly · 21/12/2018 23:13

I'm sure they'd love that, go for it 👍😊

ellendegeneres · 21/12/2018 23:26

I think it’s adorable! I’d love that if a neighbours little one loved my cat enough to do its own card and present

squaksquak · 21/12/2018 23:29

Has humanity really reached such a low point where anyone would find this offensive? ConfusedSad

I like the idea of “to cat’s name and his humans..”

posthistoricmonsters · 21/12/2018 23:33

Any normal person would love that, specially as its obviously come from your littlun. It's the sort of thing I do, though I tend to also do the humans their own cards etc. It's lovely x

freshfoodpeople · 22/12/2018 10:52

Your DD sounds lovely. I'd find this very sweet. Smile

limitedperiodonly · 22/12/2018 18:48

I'd be really happy about this and would love the card and cat toy from your daughter. If you're worried you should explain it was a present from her but I don't think it would be a problem.

Sadly, a lot of people don't like cats so I'd be over the moon that a neighbour was willing to put up with my little pesticle.

One of my cats used to sneak into my neighbour's house and sleep on her bed and when she tried to stroke him would run off. I was very embarrassed at his outrageous behaviour but she still welcomed the ungrateful little brute.

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