My friends child has ADHD. I sympathise and have always tried to be supportive. However....
The other week they come round for a play date and he broke my mirror. It was an expensive mirror. It wasn't an accident. he tried to pull it if the wall, she said 'no' but he carried on about 4 more times until it came off, smashing on the floor and a big hole in the plaster (he pulled it hard that the nail came out with some of the wall!) I didn't really say much but was upset, loved that mirror and was silently fuming she didn't react sooner and be more pro active in saving my mirror. I am ok with accidents and get that these things happen but this was so calculated and deliberate and her actions were not enough.
Next meet up I suggested we go out instead. He broke something (again deliberately) and later ran out into the road.
At one point my son started to join in doing something dangerous and I told both of them off, they then changed their behaviour as I threatened we would go home immediately if they carried on.
I wouldn't normally tell someone else's child off but it's putting me off meeting up. Thoughts?