To not want to do any housework today

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Husband went to works Christmas do last night and stayed over. I suggested he stayed as was cheaper and easier than trains and lifts, etc. However he said he would be back first thing. He arrived back at 10am....
Was having a lie in and to be fair there was traffic but in my mind first thing means 7/8am, 9am latest as he was working from home.
We have friends coming tomorrow who are really his friends (I know them through him) and I spent yesterday cleaning the house, or doing as much as I could with a baby that is only a few months old.
He is working from home today and is really busy, with conference calls, etc, so can't do anything to get house ready. However he has been on the toilet for 20 minutes.
I've just managed to get baby to sleep for an hour I'm hoping, am I being unreasonable if I take it easy for the rest of the day? I hate having guests in a messy house but feel like he's brought this on himself.

Yanbu to want a break
Plus if you cleaned yesterday it can't be that bad. I always think I notice mess a lot more than visitors as I know where things should be and they don't.

I don't really get the question though. You cleaned yesterday, so it won't be dirty, and your husband is working so wouldn't have been doing it during work hours anyway would he?

@Meyouandbabytoo Sorry, should have been clearer. I started to clean.... basically the house is still a tip but not as bad as it was. I managed to clean kitchen but it's a mess again already and didn't have time to do toilets so they are actually disgusting! Combination of looking after a little baby, husband working overtime in run up to Christmas (extra busy time of year, his last day is today thank god) and being ill, so I'm on my own from 7am - 8pm most days.

Ah that makes more sense.
I doubt things are actually disgusting, honestly. Put the baby in a sling and quickly run the hoover over the house. Quick wipe over surfaces, even with a wet wipe will help a bit. Squirt some bleach down the loo and I'm sure it will be fine.

Or if you have a downstairs loo just clean that and the living room and don't let them in any other rooms. They'd have no need to go upstairs and if you get dh to play host they won't need to go into kitchen either.

The sling and hoover noise will hopefully put baby to sleep as well to give you a bit of a break.
Or I sometimes put ds in the bouncer in the bathroom and have a bath. Straight after a feed and nappy change so likely to get a bit longer too.

He should have come home earlier and done some cleaning especially as it's his friends coming. Also I can't stand it when men take themselves off to the toilet for ages. So selfish. Do your own thing for today! (As much as you can with a baby)

Was he supposed to be cleaning this morning? I don’t understand the link between him coming home at 10 and you not wanting to clean.

It won’t take long to get the toilets and floors done. He could do it himself this evening in half an hour. Anything like laundry piles or clutter can never shoved in a bedroom the visitors won’t be going in.

Never= be!

@ILoveMaxiBondi just that really I have been with baby since yesterday morning and it's nice to have someone around even for 30mins in morning so I can shower and have breakfast. If he'd come back earlier I could have got myself ready for the day feeling a bit less tired and probably more up for tidying.
I've not been in best health since having baby (c section, lots of complications and a stinking cold) so not using a sling. By the time I've settled her after feeding and changing I am shattered, I grab a shower and food. Now the thought of doing housework is just I haven't had a shower yet (to be fair I am on Mumsnet so could do that!)

Tell him he needs to sort the house and have a lie down x

I guess also the issue is we are both quite tidy people, dh is sooooo tidy and the house is usually spotless for guests, even spare rooms no one will go in. I need to just accept it's not happening now we have a baby and go with just putting clutter up in our bedroom!

It would be cutting my nose off to spite my face, as I know that I’d hate to have visitors over and not have the house looking lovely

OP go now and grab a shower and food if you need it. Then if baby is still asleep you have a lie down too. This evening when he finishes work tell him what needs cleaned and moved to elsewhere and then have yourself an early night. Your guests won’t be scrutinising your housework. Don’t worry. Far more important to look after yourself.

Oh just have a rest and sod the housework. Coming back at 10am sounds fine to me tbh. I think you are just tired.

Or Let him do housework this eve. He had a break last night and this am. So you get pne now.

@blackteasplease I am exhausted! She woke up again, just finished feeding. Now I need to eat and sleep! I will update later and see if house is tidy on time.

House is now tidy enough, I actually don't care now My main issue wasn't that my husband went out and had a fun night while I stayed in