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To want to murder everyone

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Sparklfairy · 21/12/2018 12:19

Made the mistake of going Xmas shopping today thinking it would be quieter than tomorrow. Disaster! So many people milling aimlessly around, walking sooo slowly, stopping stock still suddenly in front of me. I wrapped up warm and the shops are all so bloody hot! The whole experience has given me the rage and a twitchy eye Grin

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Whatsnewwithyou · 21/12/2018 13:10

I went to Aldi at 8:15am this morning and it was already pretty bad. So I'm going to do my Tesco run at midnight tonight as I can't deal with crowds.

NotdeadyetBOING · 21/12/2018 13:11

I think you make a very valid point, ShadyLady. It's all too easy to behave badly when stressed and busy. Worth taking a deep breath and trying to live and let live.

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Sparklfairy · 21/12/2018 13:13

ShadyLady53 sorry to hear about your mum. I am always polite, move around them and just silently rage when I'm out of the store

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TokyoSushi · 21/12/2018 13:14

Yep it's annoying, but comes with the territory at this time of year. I have to go to our local cities massive shopping centre tomorrow, with 2 DCs! I'm going to try to get there for about 08:45 and see if that helps!

PleaseStopThis · 21/12/2018 13:15

It's the people meandering along in a row, blocking the pavement that annoy me.
Pavements should have a fast lane...

MirriVan · 21/12/2018 13:18

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ShadyLady53 · 21/12/2018 13:20

@paintinmyhairAgain I do understand that the vast majority of people will just be a bit zoned out. However, my friend who has dyspraxia and autism and looks like your typical hipster will be glued to her phone because she writes lists in Notes on her iPhone to remember everything because her short term memory is so poor. Some of the zoned out people could have anything going on in their lives that you won't know about; bereavement, sick child, too much Benilyn. You can't control their behaviour and you can't tell just by looking at someone if they are just being a twat or if there is something else going on.

All you can do is control your own temper and reactions. It's really not worth getting your blood pressure up about. I see so many people become actually aggressive at this time of year and no doubt blame the "idiots" around them who are a bit dopey. I had a bad tempered guy stand and wait for me to finish parking and stand over me whilst I was getting out of my car and go "You don't look Disabled to me". It took him ages to accept I wasn't even parked in a disabled bay, just a regular one. Even then he didn't apologise for intimidating me. It seems like some people just want to have a reason to have a go especially at this time of year.

redandyellowandpinkandgreen99 · 21/12/2018 13:42

YABU obviously. It's Christmas FGS.

And as for complaining about people stopping in front of you; do you expect people to keep walking and never stop?? To look in a shop window, or check their phone, or get their purse out, or pause to decide where they are going next, or scratch their back! Or as a few people have said, some people may just need a rest, or be a bit confused, and NEED to stop. If it's that bad out there, then stay in! Confused

I get equally annoyed with people like you who go flying into the back of me, because they are walking too close, and/or not looking where they're going. I could cheerfully swing for people walking on my heels, no more than a foot away from my back; it's irksome and intrusive, (and I wonder if they're trying to rob me!)

One woman was walking insanely close to us once, and my husband suddenly stopped to look in a window, and she went flying into the back of him. She glared and yelled 'you need fucking brake lights you fucking do, you stupid fucker!' with a Hmm kind of look.

I gave her an evil look and yelled back at her...... I said 'you need to not walk on peoples fucking heels, and look where you're fucking going, and then you won't ram into the fucking back of people WILL you?" Angry She just said 'stupid fuckers' and scuttled off!

@paintinmyhair

shady that was horrible what happened to your mum. yes, there are people with spatial awareness problems et al but most of them seem to be gawping at their bloody phones or are just zoned out then are rude when you call them out on it.

I agree with this. Some people will come up with various excuses for their rudeness and ignorance, but the truth is, 99% of the time, there IS no excuse, it's just ignorance.

JaneJeffer · 21/12/2018 13:51

I hate people suddenly stopping or changing direction because I have vestibular problems and have to really concentrate on where I'm headed so any sudden movements throw me off balance. Crossing the road is a nightmare. I'm sure people look at me and think I'm pissed. I was so exhausted after shopping yesterday I could have cried.

RebelWitchFace · 21/12/2018 13:53

OH is going tomorrow...WITH DD!!! Fun times Grin

Frankswife87 · 21/12/2018 13:58

This is bringing back memories of being rammed in the back by people with trolleys whilst queuing at the till, being shoved and rammed very aggressively by other shoppers on general at Christmas time Shock

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Sparklfairy · 21/12/2018 14:00

redandyellowandpinkandgreen99 alright calm down! Season of goodwill and all that. The thread was meant to be semi light hearted with an element of truth. Today's experience may have raised my blood pressure but yours must be through the roof! I said nothing, did nothing, not so much as an exasperated sigh. I came here to vent my frustration, none was taken out on the shopping zombies.

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Polarbearflavour · 21/12/2018 14:01

I really dislike people at the best of times, YANBU.

RangeRider · 21/12/2018 14:06

Just cough loudly a lot (fake it with enthusiasm) and say 'so sorry, I'm very infectious at the moment, norovirus and something the doctors can't identify' nice and loudly on repeat - I bet the aisles will empty in front of you like the Red Sea parting for Moses Grin
Or sing loudly while wishing everyone a Merry Christmas and offering to hug them. Perceived insanity is great for emptying your vicinity.

redandyellowandpinkandgreen99 · 21/12/2018 14:07

Well you did ask AIBU, and I answered you - YES. If I came across as arsey, it's coz I remembered that stupid cow who went flying into my husband (coz she wasn't looking where she was going and was too close to us!) and then verbally abused him. Wondering if it was you now?! Hmm

And I just get irked by people walking close behind people, and then moaning when they suddenly stop.

As i said, don't walk so close to people, and look where you're going! That way, you won't walk into people when they stop. They are entitled to do that you know!

My blood pressure's fine ta @sparklfairy. Doesn't sound like yours is........ Wink

PlainVanilla · 21/12/2018 14:10

I have just done the food shop. It could have been worse, but it was not enjoyable and I did not linger. Just wondering if it is too early for gin?

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Sparklfairy · 21/12/2018 14:13

redandyellowandpinkandgreen99 from what I can see your anger issues are worse than mine. I didn't collide with anyone. Not even close. And I've never felt the need to launch a tirade of swearing at a total stranger Smile

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redandyellowandpinkandgreen99 · 21/12/2018 14:31

@sparklfairy

And I've never felt the need to launch a tirade of swearing at a total stranger. Smile

Good for you. Here have a condescending, passive-aggressive smiley back...... Smile

You have obviously never had anyone crash into the back of your husband, blame him for it, and then call him a stupid fucker. Lucky you. And did you not read my post properly? SHE launched a tirade of abuse at him. Some of us do actually care about people close to us (even if you don't) Do you seriously expect me to just stand there while some cunt attacks my husband and calls him a 'stupid fucker' for doing nothing wrong?! Hmm

I think you DO have anger issues or you would not have started this thread getting annoyed and pissy with people for having the audacity to stop in front of you in a public place. And seriously, you must have a seriously easy life, if something as pathetic as this makes you so angry!

And YEAH, I get angry when people verbally abuse my loved ones, and this woman was lucky I wasn't in a bad mood, or I would have knocked her out. I don't give a flying fuck what people think about that.

But at least I do admit my flaws.. If defending your husband against a rude obnoxious shouty cunt means I have a flaw then yes, I have a flaw.

You can't seem to admit YOUR flaws, or accept that people will disagree with you.

Maybe you should work on that.

From what you have posted so far, you sound like someone who doesn't like to admit they're wrong, and who shuts down anyone who challenges you, and tries to turn things around to make out THEY are in the wrong.

Got you down to a tee haven't I? Wink

As you are clearly just intent on goading me, I am done on this thread, and am now hiding it.

See ya.

ThePlatypusAlwaysTriumphs · 21/12/2018 14:38

YANBU. I hate everyone in the world today. Not been shopping, just hate everyone. Including all of you. So there

Bowchicawowow · 21/12/2018 14:48

Do you think people should step aside so they are not in your way OP. Better still, should they stay at home so they can’t interfere with people who are more busy and important than they are?

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Sparklfairy · 21/12/2018 15:49

Bowchicawowow No not really. But when people are wandering around oblivious, blocking aisles so other people can't shop, I find that quite rude. If I can stay aware enough of my surroundings and apologise and move out of the way, why can't they?

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WTFIsAGleepglorp · 21/12/2018 15:56

There are men out there who have never been to the shops without help before.

I've seen them, stopping and trying to work out why shops which were 'there' last year, aren't 'there' now.

Our shopping centre has no Argos, Mothercare or ELC anymore and they don't know what to do......

ThereWillBeAdequateFood · 21/12/2018 16:02

YANBU

I can’t stand slow walkers. I quietly seethe in the inside.

WTFIsAGleepglorp · 21/12/2018 16:04

They're just stopping suddenly and then milling around the shopping centre, trying to get their bearings!

Sexnotgender · 21/12/2018 16:06

YANBU, I hate people.