Weird things in relationships that work which could be seen as red flags.

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Just curious if people have their own stories.

So my DP told me he loved me on the first date.

Whilst it could sound like a bit of a red flag out of context we've actually known each other pretty well for 2 years at that time blissfully unaware the other had feelings for each other and both thinking we can't be together due to a bit of a complicated backstory. So when he finally asked me out on a date after a drunken snog on a night out he Says that he knew how he felt and what he wanted so he told me he loved me. 7 years and 2 DCs on we are still going strong.

I've been recently thinking about the fact that if someone heard me say just the first part they might be all 🚩 🚩 🚩 but hearing the context makes more sense.

Has anyone else got things that would potentially sound weird or worrying if they were overheard out of context?

A few months into our relationship DH got me in a headlock in the middle of a shop and hustled me out. God knows what people around us thought. It was a good job he kept a hold of me though as I was pmsl.

It's part of our ongoing mission to embarrass each other in public. He can't pass a phallic shaped vegetable in the supermarket without trying to hump me with it. I get him back by saying at the top of my voice that he's a sex pest or the like.

My DH broke my nose on our first date.

We went bowling and we were constantly messing around - tickling each other, giving each other a fright etc. He’d got me an absolute belter by sneaking right up behind me when I played a shot and making me jump so I decided to do the same, only he got a strike and swung round flailing his arms to celebrate and caught me right in the face.
When we got married his best man have us a membership for the bowling place as a gift

😂Sakrifice, it’s called sarcasm. It means he thinks the opposite. But you’re making a perfect example for the thread, you see it as a red flag, I know it’s not.

@sackrifice my husband and I do this to each other all the time. It's just banter between both of us. Means nothing in the context.

People freak out that we got married at 22. I think they assume it was a shot gun wedding when I tell them, and then afterwards I explain how long we were together first.

We were together from the age of 15 and moved together for 2/3 years before marriage. We are now 25, and expecting our first baby.

I'm now divorced but when we were together I had a realisation after a quite a few years that the jokes at each others expense weren't actually very kind. So I stopped it on my side. I just didn't like how it felt when he did it to me so I stopped doing it to him.

I have a good friend who feels really stuck in the unkind 'jokey' mode and she actually thinks its dismissive and rude but doesnt know how to change it now. I think thats sad - if its the person you most love in the world then why put them down? Joking is fine - but keep on the kind side.

DH and I started as an affair. We were both not in a great place. He got a boatload of counselling and is a great partner/dad. It really really shouldn't have worked but it has and 15 years later we are well suited and happy.

I do every bit of housework and laundry etc.. I choose to, I enjoy it. And I'm a sahm whilst he works ft and pt in own business. BUT if I wanted him to do some, half or all of everything he would in a flash.

He also told me he loved me on 1st date and asked to move in really soon because he was here 99% of the time.

Now engaged. Baby and wedding date booked.

We got engaged after 5 weeks. I was completely on the rebound. I manage all the household finances.

over ten years married and blissfully happy.

My and dh have pink and blue jobs in the house. All very stereotypical but it works

Same in my house. I do all the cooking and washing. I like to cook and I'm particular as I've IBS and several food intolerances so I know if I cook, I can eat it.
DH is disabled but does all electrics, plumbing etc. This week he's put insulation around all the Windows, bled the radiators and topped up the boiler.
Wouldn't work for some people but we've been together nearly 30 years and it works for us

We met online while he was in an open relationship with someone else and became friends with benefits. Eventually he broke up with the other girl and we got together officially and he moved in immediately. THEN I got accidentally pregnant 4 months in to our relationship. Not an auspicious start all round! Very happy together, love our little accident and planning on getting married soon.

I love the nose breaking story 😂

I will add one more. DP is a sulker. Its his automatic reaction but I know how to deal with it and I call him out on it pretty much immediately which makes him pull himself out of it. I also make fun of him for it afterwards usually with a whiny baby voice and we both tend to do it to each othet after our little disagreements as it just lightens the mood and we can't stay off with each other for long. As we go on we both tend to try to clear the air as fast as we can, it was a bit trickier at the beginning.

DH and I take huge pleasure in tormenting in other. Been married 18 years and even now he can make my stomach hurt from laughing so hard at least once a day. He calls me a lazy old bat (I am), he absolutely adores my mum and calls her an old witch and has even bought her a broom for her birthday which she found hilarious and dined off for years. We did once go on holiday with some newish friends and when the husbands went off diving the wife said her and her husband were worried about us and how he spoke to me and did I want to stay in their room with us! They obviously thought the tears rolling down my face from laughing every day were from trauma! Apparently they didn't do banter or at least not like us. If people don't know us they would totally think something was up. It isn't. He is amazing and I couldn't stand being with someone who doesn't do teasing in a kind way with in jokes we have developed over our years together. Each to their own. My parents were the same with each other.