To be annoyed my partner wants to do overtime at work on xmas day?!

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I feel slightly miffed that my partner of 2 years has chosen to go to work on xmas day. We don’t live together so he will spend the morning with his son, visit his mum for a couple of hours then go to work at 4pm until around midnight. He said he will come stay at mine after work but it’s not the same.

I feel like he has put me last. He said he can pop in before work to give me my gift but I declined to be awkward . It’s just got right on my nerves. I told him I can’t stop him but not 100% happy about it. He says he would never stop me from doing overtime.

I’m not stopping him I’m just not happy with it. Makes me feel like last priority. Am I over reacting.

red He asked to see the op!! She said no!

Both me and my dh have volunteered to work xmas day. Him to cover someone else with kids and me to free up my staff to spend it with their families. We just celebrate a different day.

Sent that too early! Meant to add if he has Boxing Day off or Xmas eve can you not plan something there? Saying you won’t see him to be awkward is a tad childish in response

@Redskyandrainbows67 I’m the most suspicious person ever but even I wouldn’t jump to that conclusion..lots of people I know without children work overtime at xmas. It’s just another day to some people so a good chance to earn extra money. My dp doesn’t get any time off and it makes me sad, but mostly because we have a child together that wants to see daddy. If we didn’t I wouldn’t be that bothered really. He’s seeing his son, his mum and then offered to see the op before work. Nothing says ow to me.

They dont live together and he did say he would pop in before work to see her and go round after work. OP said no cos she is having a strop. He doesn't live with OP so why shouldn't he see his mum?

How long have you been together?

Will this mean that you're alone at Christmas?

Double pay is attractive at minimum wage or at £100 an hour! If he was putting you last he could quite easily say he'd see you boxing day as he'd be tired after work.

It’s the timing of his day that makes me suspicious. However if his shifts /overtime normally start at 4/5pm until midnight and this is a regular thing then I take back the ow comment
4pm is the time you say to someone to come round as we are eating early eve on Xmas day...

People start at all times of the day. My work has a staggered start of 2/4/6pm and I start at 6.

He silent even need to make an excuse of working, he doesn’t live with her and could say he was at his mums for dinner quite easily.

He’s an engineer - he’s not a person on a low wage looking for double pay

Jesus Christ. I'm an engineer, I'd be more likely to go in for double time as an engineer now than when I worked the tills in McDonalds for minimum wage.

Lots of people just aren't that bothered about Christmas. I always worked it before I had children, went towards booking a holiday in January.

"No one chooses to work overtime on Xmas day"

In my last job I used to fall over myself to work overtime on Christmas Day. Extra pay AND a day off in lieu? Sign me up.