Ok, I don't have a special mum- daughter relationship with my mum for different reasons plus the fact that she drives me nuts. However I am civil and try and play the card.
She is quite entitled, She has never worked (dad was a Dr so she lived comfortably off him and now off his pension as he died a few years ago). She is very defensive so I can not talk to her in a direct kind of way or try and show her a different point of view. She has quite a great opinion of herself. She is extremely important she thinks in her church where she does the music even though she sounds crap and thinks everyone loves her. (I'm being frank here).
My siblings and I are fairly introvert, private people and and have always worked in jobs where others are a priority. I'm quite an empathetic person and hate upsetting people or getting into arguments. (sometimes not a good thing I guess).
So tonight, mother was supposed to be collecting my dds and was getting the bus. I was waiting for her when she called in a flustered tone making me think something was wrong.
She'd been waiting for the bus and apparently it had taken a long time. She'd said to the driver 'I've been here an hour as no buses have come'. Driver said 'that's not true' and they got into a tiff. Mum says he humiliated her and was very rude to her probably just told her the truth
So, she got home and said she'd written a letter to the bus company and a local MP!
I messaged saying ' it's Christmas ' and something along the lines of he probably had had a bad day and always gets complaints so maybe she could just drop it. I added that I get difficult situations on a daily basis in my job (I work with SEMH teenagers) and sometimes that's just the way life is. I also thought about all her 'christian' stuff and why the hell she can't forgive and forget over a silly little thing.
She wrote back saying I always take other people's sides and I never supported her etc etc then turned her phone off!
This may seem a small difference of opinion to some but my mother is probably sitting on the phone to her church friends right now crying her eyes out and feeling utterly betrayed by her family. We really are a disgrace!
AIBU to just want my mother to let things go and realise she is not the only one on this planet and to calm down?!