(NC) Short background: I live about 3.5 hours away from my family. I’m 36 and single and my mother is desperate for me to settle down. I told her on my last visit home to stop interfering and pressuring me to settle down. Recently she has been very passive aggressive on the phone with one word answers and then trying to get me off the phone asap. I called home 2 weeks ago and dad answered and I got very upset and was crying. Mum didn’t come to the phone or try to find out what was up with me. Dad just tried to get me off the phone and told me to stop crying and that I’m not a child. I had called to tell them I need to have some urgent surgery and will be in the hospital for a few says. I haven’t called back since and they have not been in touch. They don’t know about my surgery because we haven’t been in touch. Previously when dad was taken I’ll i was yelled at for phoning home to ask after him by mum, telling me that because I live far away I am not really even part of the family. AIBU to not get in touch now? I feel very hurt that I called home in tears and they didn’t bother to find out if I was ok.