How much of a twat did i look?

[MsHopey]

Okay, I think I'm being a bit paranoid and realise most people don't put as much thought into awkward situations.
I'm 21 weeks pregnant. We know what we're having but MIL and DH were talking about it and said we should keep the sex a bit of a secret, I'm fine with this and agreed.
So, yesterday, a woman from the council comes to view our property, nothing out of the ordinary, all goes well, at the end, just as polite conversation she mentions the pregnancy and asks if we know what we're having.
I said "we don't know" at the same time my husband says "boy!".
I'm feeling pretty stupid and like a liar, because I am. She looks confused and I'm not very good at thinking on the spot so just say "MIL told me not to tell anyone".
Then I quickly changed the subject. Now, I know when you feel stupid you concentrate on it and the council lady probably never gave it a second thought because she doesn't give a shit.
What would you think if you had this conversation with someone?
Now, I am prone to social anxiety and stress about the stupidest stuff, obviously as I'm still worrying about this.

I would try to force yourself to stop dwelling on this and not to put energy into thinking about it. You have to practice ‘not dwelling’ on something in my opinion and distract yourself with other things, you can eventually get better at not dwelling on small instances of social embarrassment.

Don't give it another thought lovely! Honestly, the council woman will have forgotten by now, MIL will never know, and even if the scan did say "boy" it might be a girl! They get it wrong sometimes, and really, as long as you and your baby are fine and healthy, who cares?
It is easy to dwell on little things, but try not to worry about this, honestly, in the "Great Scheme of Things" this is nothing!

No you didn't. Your DH did.

I don’t think you looked a twat at all. But why are your MIL & DH making the decisions on telling people (and your DH not even sticking to them)?

I'd assume that you'd chosen not to find out but your DH had, and he'd just blown it for you. Or that there was some doubt at the scan. Or that you'd found out but were keeping it fairly private.

To be honest there are so many perfectly normal, rational explanations that I wouldn't really have given it a second thought.

Please don't dwell on this OP, I'm sure it wasn't at all the awkward moment you think it was!

DH said he got excited and it just came out. Im not upset he got excited, ofc we're excited about our baby. We were told a boy at a 16 week private scan, but they couldn't fell at the 20 week scan which is a shame because it would be nice to have it confirmed.

I would assume the situation was exactly as you described and wouldn’t give it a second thought! Don’t worry about it (but discuss with DH whether you’re keeping it a secret or not).

I wouldn't think a single think about it afterwards. It doesn't matter in the slightest what you said to a random person from the council who you'll likely never see again. It's not stupid or lying to want to keep things private from people who really don't need to know/.

Don't think any more about it. Be glad you are having a baby, never mind the sex.

Why was a person from the council visiting you about it, or whatever she was visiting about? I never had such a visit.

We're moving so it was just to check the condition of the property and to discuss what needed to be removed otherwise the council will charge us.
Just a quick checklist really, also to get a few details for future tenants about who currently supplies the electric and water and such.

I’d assume exactly what it is- you’d agreed to keep it private but your husband blurted it out. I definitely wouldn’t think there was anything odd about it.