Need help/advice

[Minionrush]

Was suspended from work 12 weeks ago for being on the receiving end of DV . There’s no end in sight ... no information ... no dates . I literally spend every day in tears waiting for calls , emails , letters . Everyone is winding down to enjoy a happy Christmas I’m stuck in time , hating life and feeling like the grinch . I don’t know how I’m going to cope through Christmas with this over me x

DV?

Take a deep breath. What reason were you given for the suspension.

More importantly, are you safe? Have you left your abusive partner, have you got a support network?

What reasons did they give?

That I’m not fit to do my job as I’m not fit to me a mother . My DC are happy and well protected passed social services etc . I never dreamed this would happen in my children’s life or mine . No we’re not still together , but the impact of this is worse then whatever he’s ever done to me

I’m genuinely concerned he will turn up over the holidays , that I’m going to lose my job or my mind and everyone on here will only gone adivice unless it regradeds MiL choice of starter on Xmas day

When I was feeling low I listed everything that was good about my life and focused all my energy into that. I also had a playlist of specific songs from when I’d feel most relaxed which was a help in the form of escapism once the kids were in bed.

That’s a very odd reason for an employer to give - does your work involve children? Was there a specific incident that your employer referred to?

I think you are in a panic - which is totally understandable. However you need to think rationally. I doubt your employer said your not fit to be a mother - unless your job is foster care or something similar.

Do you have the reason in writing from there? Reasons might include timekeeping, attendance or performance. Do you have a union rep you could speak to, or failing that could you talk to citizens advice?

Have you reported your ex to the police? Can you speak to them, or women’s aid, about staying safe over Christmas?

Deep breath. Stay calm. What is your job? In what way is it impacted by DV - do you work with kids?

You’ve been suspended but what did they originally say about a meeting or next steps? Are they paying you? Are you a member of a union?

I assume you have given up on us!

Hope everything calms down and you have a good Christmas