What is a reasonable response when a neighbour tells you your kids friends have egged their house

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Next door neighbour informed us that her and her DH were having a night away on a Friday night and that their kids (approx 17) were having a party and had been told to not have any noise past 1/2am.
I thought it was nice of her to let us know. We're not attached and could only hear the noise downstairs in our conservatory.

Went to bed as normal and I was woken approx 1am by a huge loud bang!! I got up, had a peek at the front door and couldn't make sense of what the noise was.

About 2 days later I'm in the bathroom in the daylight and I notice a fucking egg smashed running down the window! Open the back window to see loads of egg shells also smashed on the conservatory roof.

I knocked the next day to speak to the neighbour and let her know. And all she responded was 'oh must have been dd's friends'

No apology, no nothing. I don't really know what I was expecting- and I don't have teenagers yet but I think I'd have sent my dd round to apologise herself, or at least have shown I was annoyed by it!

How would you react if it was your kids?

I would send mine round to apologise and clean up.

Take photos of it, get a quote from the window cleaner and send it to neighbour's dd.

Tell her that when you have a party you clean up the mess, including any made by your guests.

Yep - as Bella says.

Bella's post is gorgeous and assertive, but unlikely to be acted on.

Her response is definitely disappointing, but not much you can do. Tells you a lot!

In your shoes, I'd wait until the next time she tells your they're away and there's going to be a party and make an acerbic comment about hoping there won't be more eggs. Perhaps threatening to call the police next time (pointless, though!)

I would be livid! I woukd then throw double the amount of eggs at their house! When she knocks on your door, give her the same response she gave to you 😁

That's not on and I think it's bot unreasonable to ask that her kids come over to help clean.

I would expect her children to come clean it up.

I know eggs on car paint is terribly damaging. No idea of the impact on houses, but if there is actual damage, I would expect them to pay.

See this is exactly what I thought, I'd be mortified if it were my kids and would at least send them round to apologise!!

It was just a really awkward exchange and I'm quite annoyed.

@RockingAroundTheChristmasTree1 hahahaha this is an excellent idea

I'd be mortified and send them round to clear up the mess.

My kids would be grovelling on your doorstep with a bucket of soapy water in hand. I would be extremely apologetic but would expect my nearly adult children to take the bulk of the shame and embarrassment. That being said, my 7yo wouldn’t do that sort of thing, and wouldn’t need to be told twice to apologise if their friends did it.

I'd be mortified if mine had done that.

I'd apologise for my part, offer to pay for any damage and get my kids to clean it, on the understanding that we'd get a professional cleaner if it wasn't satisfactory. The people responsible would be going around in person to apologise.

My kids, if they couldn't identify the perpetrators or refused to take responsibility would be having all privileges suspended (taxi service, wifi, xbox, allowance) until the debt was repayed.

I would send them round to apologise and clean your front door.

I would make my child apologise and offer to have it professionally cleaned out of their own money.

Next time call the police.

You'd be able to hear my response with the windows closed and in the length of time it takes to fill a bucket with hot soapy water you'd be getting a personal apology from the offenders and your conservatory cleaned. They'd also be paying for a window cleaner to come round and do all the windows of the rest of the house.

The kids are scumbags, but in this case it seems to be hereditary so you can't really blame them...

I would follow this up with a text saying that now she’s had the chance to speak to her DD how are they planning to put things right since you would obviously prefer to keep your previously good neighbourly relationship?

Anyone who leaves 17-year-olds alone for the night to have a party is already not doing their job. It is fine for teenagers to be home alone, but not to have a party. There will always be a very high risk of something bad happening.

You really have to egg them back now op, it's the only way.

My child would be paying out of their own money for a window cleaner, and apologising immediately.

They’d also be banned from having any more parties.