To say cancer is a t**t

[Girlsworld92]

I'm so so lucky in many ways, fab husband, lovely house, gorgeous children, great friends, financially secure but this week has been hard.
My friends partner has been diagnosed with cancer out of the blue, one of my most gorgeous friends has potentially got to fight it for the second time & my FIL has only months to live due to this shit head disease & he's in pain. The reality that this is his final Xmas is awful. In every other way he's healthy as an ox it's just so cruel the way it's taking over his body.
Awful awful awful.

Cancer is a fucking bitch. Just recovering after the worse year of my life but now living with the knowledge that with all the shits they've put in my body to save me I'm very like to develop secondary cancer and I'm only 33.

I'm so sorry op

@LeukaeLucky
Bitch is an excellent word too.
I hope you have an amazing 2019 & I hope you don't have to go through it again

@HJWT thank you. I just hope my 2 friends get good news. They are only in their 40s 🤞
I feel a bit helpless. One step at a time I guess & planning a lovely Xmas day for my FIL & MIL

It’s a deeply cruel illness - I have lost five friends to it. None made it to 50.

I truly hope we can find a cure one day but it’s so complex and there are so many types it’s hard to know how long that will be

Cancer gobbled up most of my older relatives. It currently has my dad. It's prostate, and he's had it about three years.

My brother had a lypoma (non-hodgkins) about five years ago. My dad goes to the same cancer unit my brother did. My brother recovered but cannot grow his previously thick curly hair back. I buy him hats to cover his thinning hair.

My dad is keeping his cancer at bay with a cocktail of drugs but the side effects means he's put on a lot of weight, and can't walk that far. The tablets take away testosterone so there are other lifestyle problems too. I question the ethics: quantity vs quality of life, but my mum makes most of the decisions in that relationship which causes much resentment.

😢 @StitchingMoss
That's awful.

@WaterlooElephant I said to someone the other day it's the disease of our generation. They will find a cure but then something else will come along.
My FIL has had it on & off for 30 years.

GirlsWorld - I do wonder what is happening that so many young people seem to be getting cancer now. Or maybe my group of friends has just been super unlucky .

op. My lovely DF been diagnosed recently, been through major surgery to remove one tumour from his spine, but it's still there so he faces chemo next year. But no prognosis yet. So we're going into Christmas not knowing whether he'll see another one.... 3 months ago he was fit, active and healthy 65 year old. It's heartbreaking but we try to stay positive that he's still got years ahead of him.

Yep I know exactly where your coming from , my lovely MIL died 4 weeks ago today it still doesn’t seem real. My DS5 misses her terribly and is asking questions every day about death and heaven and bursting into tears. He made a Xmas card for her the other day and wanted Santa to take it to heaven . It’s so shit he has to go through this at his age and my poor DH and FIL, it’s heartbreaking how many families are being left broken hearted due to this horrible horrible disease

I would agree Stitching there's certainly something. Maybe environmental/genetics/chemical. I don't know.

@scoobyd2 I hope you get a positive outcome. X

@pumpkinpie01 that's so sad. I haven't said anything to the kids yet. They are 7 & 4 so want to at least get through Xmas as a normal day for them

Yes it is shit my friend. Found out yesterday my mam has her 2nd battle starting but fortunately this time it's 'minimal' but still there.

💐 @Wintermam
I hope your mum manages to beat it

Lost 3 friends to this shit in 4 months. Cancer can just do one.

for you and FIL.

Even if a cure is not found soon, I hope we can get even better at detecting cancer, by the time my DM was diagnosed it was already terminal. I was extremely lucky, because I was not under NHS (so having smears) at the time I was diagnosed with cervical cancer at 20 and caught before any symptoms. I would have been 25 under the NHS before first smear and probably would not be here.

Awful. There’s so many diiferent types. I’ve noticed people seem to be getting it younger and younger.

It’s unfair and cruel. It took both my parents. My father was taken when I wasn’t even old enough to remember him! It also took both my grandmothers. It also took my father in law who was-to me- everything a dad should be

It ripped through my strong amazing compassionate mum in 29days. I miss her so very much

YANBU at all. I hate Cancer. Lost my dad to it this year. It's true what they say - it takes all the best people.

6 weeks ago I had never been fitter or felt better. Went for routine bowel screening, cancer discovered and now I am 8 days post-surgery with a stoma, bag and all, as well as a stomach full of wounds. Waiting for biopsy to see if it was all removed or if I need chemo. Still can’t get my head round what has happened to me.

@girlsworld92 thanks a lot. Same to you and friends.

On the coming Sunday it'll be 22 years since that b*tch took my dad. From diagnosis to the end 2 months and one day. I still miss him and hate the fact that he could never meet my niece and nephew or that he be there for my sister's wedding.
It also took my maternal grandparents and my paternal grandfather. Cancer you can FOTTFSOO

leukaelucky I think your name gives a clue?! I hope you have lucky blood!

Luv good luck with your recovery. It’s just mind blowing how life can throw these things.