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To ask Santa or Parents

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stokieginge · 19/12/2018 19:07

Just a curious thread really.

At Christmas who do you tell your DC/DSC brought their presents.

Santa/Father Christmas or you their parents? Or a mixture of the two?

OP posts:
Ansumpasty · 19/12/2018 20:03

We say we send the money to Father Christmas.

We provide the money and he decides what he gets with it (or what they asked for in their letter) but if they’re naughty and they go on the bad list, the money just gets given to other children.

Iputthescrewinthetuna · 19/12/2018 20:06

Santa brings all, after the elves have made them.

DaisyRose1985 · 19/12/2018 20:08

All presents are off who they state they are off, and santa just delivers them.....Everyone sends the parcels to Santa at an earlier date, and Santa brings them on Xmas Eve once they have gone to sleep. This is what I was told when I was younger, and have followed it on (I'm 33)

They have never asked what is santa getting them, just I wonder what santa brings.

Nousernameforme · 19/12/2018 20:10

This year for the first time we are trying something new. Mainly cause we don't have the storage space.
So all presents from other people are under the tree pre christmas which gives the chance to poke and shake a bit and is building the excitement and everything from us is from Father Christmas.
Our youngest is 5 and seems to understand this and everyone else gets credit and thank yous for their presents

Aragog · 19/12/2018 20:10

DD is a teen now, but we actually still do it the same way pretty much, just for the fun side of it.

One gift is from FC. It is not necessarily the biggest nor the most expensive gift. Its usually a more frivolous gift , or one that had been requested/longed for over time. It is unwrapped and ready to use - when smaller it would be out of box, assembled and ready to play with. Often with signs off elf dust still present.

All other gifts are under the tree and labelled accordingly, inc from me and dh. No stockings here. Most family and friends send gifts in advance and they are under the tree. None are opened early. One or two may be delivered after Christmas with the giver, and they are opened at that time.

Oysterbabe · 19/12/2018 20:11

My 2 get a lot from relatives so we don't go mad buying stuff ourselves.
They get gifts from:
Grandparents x 2
Aunt
Uncles x 3
Great aunt
Our friends x 6

So that's at least 13 extra presents each. Often more as DH's parents buy a few things. I just feel lucky that they have a lot of people who care about them.

usernamerisnotavailable · 19/12/2018 20:14

Main present from us and bits and pieces and stocking from FC. Saw a really interesting post in FB about this the other day urging parents to do big present from them not FV as otherwise they go back to school and some kids have Nintendo's from FC and others something small, if parents don't have much spare, and those children then think FC doesn't think they are as good. The post urged parents to do anything expensive from them and smaller gifts from Santa.

Made me think.

Aragog · 19/12/2018 20:15

This always amazes me - how many presents do people get from other people??

DD gets plenty from us and other family and friends. But they are labelled from the givers, inc me and dh.

Only one gift from FC/Santa. I liked that way, for us, as it meant that there was no wondering why FC might have spent a lot of money on her, but may not have on other children.

When I was growing up FC was mainly a delivery service and sorted gifts on behalf of other people.

Knittink · 19/12/2018 20:16

Stocking with little bits from Father Christmas, all other presents from whoever they're actually from.

Those of you who do stockings and parents' presents from FC but all other family presents from the actual gift-givers, doesn't it seem a bit odd to your dc that their aunts, uncles, grandparents etc buy them presents but their parents don't?

Imustbemad00 · 19/12/2018 20:17

I don’t have anything under the tree until kids are asleep Xmas eve. Then put everything out.
Main presents (stuff from the list or things they really want or I know they’ll really like) from FC. Mostly to keep the magic alive. Especially if it’s something amazing they think I wouldn’t get them, I think it helps keep them believing as they think ‘mum wouldn’t of got me that so it must be Fc’. Soticking from FC.
Surprised and few nice bits from me. Grandparents bring theirs round Xmas day.

lannister · 19/12/2018 21:08

Presents are from mum and dad unless directly given by santa at the grotto or a school fete or something

LittleLionMansMummy · 19/12/2018 21:11

FC brings one present for under the tree and fills the stocking. The rest are from us and family, so they can say thank you to relatives.

Pinkprincess1978 · 19/12/2018 21:27

Santa sends us a bill for the presents he buys. They know we buy some things which we send to Santa to deliver at Christmas. We wanted them to appreciate how much Christmas costs us but also understand why some of their friends might get more or less than them. Otherwise they could t understand why Santa brings some children an expensive games console/phone etc and not them.

LaurieMarlow · 19/12/2018 21:27

doesn't it seem a bit odd to your dc that their aunts, uncles, grandparents etc buy them presents but their parents don't?

It never entered my head as a child.

I think kids often just accept situations as presented to them.

Doyoumind · 19/12/2018 21:33

Mixture but usually the best stuff is from Father Christmas so I don't get the credit! All the presents he brings have the same paper and definitely different from the presents from me.

Howdoyoudoit31 · 19/12/2018 21:36

Those of you who do stockings and parents' presents from FC but all other family presents from the actual gift-givers, doesn't it seem a bit odd to your dc that their aunts, uncles, grandparents etc buy them presents but their parents don't?

I think I mentioned in my post that I have told mine that we don’t buy them presents as we buy gifts for family and friends as Santa doesn’t deliver to adults and they shouldn’t have to miss out. Santa only gives presents to children

Howdoyoudoit31 · 19/12/2018 21:39

I also don’t like to involve money in xmas. So I don’t do any of the sending money to Santa.
She writes her list and is told that Santa and his elves will try there best to get everything on it but as there’s loads of kids they might not get it all.

CheshireChat · 20/12/2018 03:57

stokieginge sorry, I meant the 6th of Dec- St Nicholas day when we polish our boots and get sweets or stocking filler like stuff in them.

6th Jan I think it's St John (his beheading IIRC) and in some countries it's a name day thing (like a minor birthday I guess), but no idea why the OP opened the stocking then, surely it's too long to wait for it!

Juanbablo · 20/12/2018 04:14

Santa brings a sack of small gifts. We buy one big gift.

Happygolucky25 · 20/12/2018 04:21

I buy most of the gifts but the elves help me and help me wrap them.
Santa brings the “ special gift “ she asked him for when visiting him.
This year that happened to be the unicorn pony cycle so they will arrive Xmas eve night.

knittedjest · 20/12/2018 04:42

Here Santa buys everything but one lousy boring present. The way it kids believe in Santa for only a few years, I can put off my own need for gratification for a little while to let them believe in magic so more than happy for Santa to take all the credit for 4 or 5 Christmases.

EmeraldShamrock · 20/12/2018 06:21

We have always said we pay Santa for the gifts too, I might sound harsh, this time of year is so expensive, it stops the DC asking for lots of other festive treats.
This year I'll be flat broke Christmas week until January's pay cheque, they better enjoy their gifts.

sdaisy26 · 20/12/2018 07:05

@cheshirecat 6th Jan is epiphany - the kings’ visit. Hence gifts being given 6th Jan quite usual in many cultures.

IAmMumWho · 20/12/2018 07:14

My kids are 4 and they think all presents are from Santa. But this year we're telling them the main presents are from Santa and everything else is from us and family

cheesenpickles · 20/12/2018 07:29

We have a few presents from mum and dad. Majority of presents and stockings are from Father Christmas.

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