..to think its ok to change this much

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I have been married for 30 years and I love my DH very much, but I think I am irritating him. I have changed a lot in the last 5 years, I was feisty, fun loving and a bit of a drinker all things we loved to do together, we had fun. Now I am a Vegan, I don't drink, I love my home and my dog and we are due our first GC in the spring and that is all I seem to be interested in. If we are going out with friends he says things like, "oh I hope they don't want to eat out as it gets all F@£$%^&g awkward" I think he means with me being Vegan. I don't make a fuss I am happy with salad and chips off ANY menu, it's everyone else who makes a big fuss about it. Then there is drinking, he annoys me when he is drunk but he never used to as I was drunk too. I don't want to grow apart but these are two things I won't compromise on, I do compromise on going out with a group of friends which I hate but always manage to look like I don't (I think) so because I look like I enjoy it he seems to arrange more nights out!!! I have asked him to do things I like doing but he won't as they are pretty boring. I married him as a bit of a selfish twat and have not had an issue with it for 30 years so he is struggling to change, he is trying but he said I am so different and I think I full on annoy him to be honest. Am I the only middle aged woman to get old before my DP and probably before my time?

goingonabearhunt1
What does he do on s night out that annoys you?

He talks rubbish, laughs at stupid things, they all shout and laugh really loud, orders another pint when he is aware I am ready to go home. Nothing really I am just easily annoyed by drunk people.

I think it's gone further than just going tea total and vegan, it's now you've also developed an intolerance for anyone else drinking, and it's not he is drunk, as you yourself said, you are annoyed if he just has four pints.

That would be pretty much a deal breaker for me. It's one thing to go tea total and still go out and enjoy yourself, it's a whole other ballgame when you go out and look down on your social group for drinking and having fun and to expect him to leave because you've decided you've had enough and dislike him being loud and jovial with his friends.

I think you need to stop going out with them. I have no doubt they can tell you arent enjoying it. Either you find something you both like and then do your separate interests as well or accept that you have now changed so much the 2 of you are no longer compatible.

Bluntness100. Yeah I think your right I think I need to address my issues with drinking tbh.