Receiving loads of comments my kids can't possibly be mine with their "dark completions"

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(Back ground so it makes sense) So my two girls are mixed (Hispanic, Asian and white) I'm white with very light skin, blonde hair and green eyes. They are both tanned with dark hair and eyes.

It's beginning to get me down any time I show photos of my kids to people they just tell me how much they can't be mine because of how dark they are. And they look nothing at all like me. (Even though from baby pictures they are my doubles).

Even worse on two occasions people in person have said "no way are they yours" then I said "excuse me they are" and they both followed it up with they just are so dark and you're so light. With no apology to how rude a statement that is.

It's really starting to bother me and it's very rude, how would you deal with this?

Or am I just too offended by this?

My friends who were with me were shocked people just say these things too

People are just ignorant
Ignore them or say, totally deadpan, you're right, I kidnapped them

That's very rude. These people realize that children have two parents, right?

Just ignore them.

My eldest looks nothing like me and I got told it all the time. Still do. He's red head and neither me or my DH are so of course there were the 'jokes' about him being the milkman's from random strangers.

Youngest is the spit of me, but with his DH's hair. So don't get it so much with him.

But people are rude and ignorant and say any old shit. Just nod politely and smile. Or like other OP said, say you just stole them!

You're not being easily offended, it's rude. People don't think. I would 100% pull them up on it. Or ask them if their kids are really theirs, given they're so polite.

It's not the same but I have had people ask if DTwins were IVF or natural. First few times I answered as I had new babies and was blindsided by the question. Now I just say, I really don't think that's any of your business, do you ask every new mother how they conceived? Yes, it's arsey, yes I come across as a bit of a prick, but you just get sick of it.

My kids are half Asian. I always tell people so I don't get any shock at a picture!

It's weird they think that as if your other half was black then the children are most likely to be... black or at least somewhere much darker than you :S but the fact they actually have the nerve to say that is pretty stupid.

I think they are saying it in a bit of a rude way, but unfortunately you just have to get used to it. My mum used to be asked if she was our nanny (as in childcare), a lady was outraged when I was talking to my daughter and her mum was nowhere in sight (I had to say it was me).

My daughter dad is a quarter Indian and quite dark so my daughter came out with tanned skin, dark eyes etc. I am pale, blonde with green eyes.

I have never had people make comments like that to my face. Where the hell do you live??

I've had it all the time as well. I'm also the white parent of mixed race kids, and some people just can't see past their skin colour. I am often mistaken for their step mother or DH's OW. It doesn't actually bother me though, because I put it down to ignorance. However, oddly, it massively bothers DH.

Where the hell do you live??

Yes I was thinking that - where do you live?

My dcs’ father is Indian, I am white. The dcs are all darker skinned than me and all have brown eyes to my blue. No one has ever said they can’t be mine.

These people sound stupid, sorry (not sorry!) to say. I would play along with them and say - no you’re right - they aren’t. And say no more. Leave the idiots guessing.

'These people sound stupid, sorry (not sorry!) to say. I would play along with them and say - no you’re right - they aren’t. And say no more'

Very good idea some people are so incredibly rude and thick. I don't blame you for being upset OP

I don’t think yabu about getting upset, but some people have no filter just take it on the chin, you know they are yours so that’s all that matters. People use to say that to my mum as my mum is half Irish and me and my had is half Indian so me and my brother were very tanned compared to her. They actually thought our family friend who is full Indian was my mum. People just say what they see, yes they should think about how it will make you feel but unfortuntley there are too many people who don’t care.