Married for 12 years, 2 kids, all the normal ups and downs. He’s done things in the past that I struggle to forgive (debts, disappearing after nights out, drinking too much) and I’m now bitter about (and will bring up in any argument). We both work (him full time, me almost full time). We spend our evenings watching tv or on our phones, not speaking to eachother. We haven’t had sex in over a year. We sleep in separate beds because of his snoring.
Any attempt at discussing our problems ends up in a point scoring exercise on who is more at fault.
We can’t go out on date nights much due to 2 small children. We haven’t got much time or energy after jobs, kids, cleaning etc.
I need some ideas on how to sort our marriage out before it’s completely irreparable. I don’t want it to end and I do care for him but it feels like living with a friend or housemate and I don’t think that’s healthy for anyone x