Not another MIL thread

[Lweji]

BF of a few months has just brought me and DS presents from his mother and brother.

AIBU to think they are BU because now I have to get them presents as well, and within my extended family we had managed to do away with presents to adults?

Should I LTB?

(add your other tales of unbearable seasonal woe)

That’s kind of sweet, they must like you!

it's sweet, but don't tell anyone MIL is clearly unreasonable.

You don't need to buy gifts for them at all. If you visit their house over the holidays bring a bottle of wine/chocolates. Tell your BF that you are grateful for the gifts, but that you do not engage in buying gifts for your own family and that you don't want to start with his.

What CFs. I would go NC immediately. They are clearly abusive, overbearing, narcissists.

Cheeky fuckers

At the risk of taking this too seriously - just stick & Lweji on his presents to them as they obviously want you to feel like part of the family. How old is DS? Is he young enough that a nice drawing for them would be cute?

I think they are just sending a message to tell you that you are welcome. My lovely MIL did similar for my first Christmas with DP, she has been like a mother to me ever since. Lovely woman!

First year we were together DP went to his parents as usual for Christmas (I don’t celebrate Christmas), Hadn’t even met his family.

And he came back laden with gifts for me and dc from his family 😱

I had bought bits for his younger sisters but everything he’d taken was from him. Was mortified I hadn’t actually sent anything from us properly. And DP is so laid back his reasoning was they wouldn’t want anything anyway, it’s the bloody principle, I always spend a lot time and thought on gifts and never ever not reciprocate. Dps attitude didn’t help either.

I’ve since become part of the family and do buy gifts for everyone, and even if I don’t if the gifts are good I get thanked profusely. It’s what happens as dp spent years giving ‘joke’ presents and now they don’t believe anything thoughtful is from him😆😆

Cheeky fuckers

There you go!

It's a good thing I haven't bought anyone any presents yet, so it doesn't look like I wasn't getting them any.

DS is a teen now. I could get him to send a video message via Youtube. Maybe.

@fuzzywuzzy
Thanks for that story. Taking credit for BF sounds like a great plan. Maybe I'll force BF to go shopping for his family with me so and swear him to secrecy.