My DB has just texted me to say he's got nowhere to go for Xmas. I've had him here around 3 times in 5 years, picked him up as he doesn't drive & dropped him off again later. He now lives further away so it would be over 2 hours driving in total. However I've already committed to doing some charity driving for the elderly and feel picking him up would be just too much. I'd hardly see my kids and want to be able to chill out. When we've had him here in the past he didn't lift a finger ALL DAY. Didn't even offer to help at all. Basically sat in the same chair.
We are not close and are very different. I've enjoyed having him here in previous years but he does seem to take over the conversation and if I go and play with my DDs I feel guilty leaving him on his own even though he's a grown man! Staying over for him isn't really an option as he goes to midnight mass on Xmas eve.