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orangeapple1 · 18/12/2018 01:07

It was a fairly short relationship (7 months) after I had just split up with ex-DP of 4 years. I found out about him texting multiple women and at least three of his exes, but I naively took him back after much begging from him and promises that he'd change. I just felt as though I couldn't continue a relationship with someone that I had zero trust in and therefore told him that we were done when I'd had a few drinks one night. In the morning I text him back asking for another chance to which he replied that he wasn't in the right place at the moment so I left it at that hoping he'd change his mind and contact me. I've since found out that he'd been having a physical relationship with one particular ex throughout the relationship however she claims that she knew nothing of him being with me. I confronted him about this but he denied it all and was adamant that she was lying despite me having proof. I suppose what I'm asking is whether I'd gain anything out of contacting him to ask for an explanation,(which he will no doubt not have), or an apology as at the moment I feel as though I cannot move on because I'm starting to believe it was my fault. Or will this just make me look desperate?

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Armchairanarchist · 18/12/2018 01:09

You won't gain anything. Run and don't look back.

orangeapple1 · 18/12/2018 01:12

@Armchairanarchist thank you I do know I'd regret it but with all the built up frustration I just want him to know that he did hurt me.

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DocusDiplo · 18/12/2018 01:14

He doesn't care. Move on.
You deserve better.

arranbubonicplague · 18/12/2018 01:18

He wasn't as invested in the relationship nor as committed to you. He cannot give you the closure that you crave.

It's difficult but don't contact him - it will only be balm to his ego.

Lovingbenidorm · 18/12/2018 01:24

Do me a favour op, take a good long look in the mirror and ask yourself a few questions here.
Where is your pride and self respect?
This ‘relationship ‘ is an absolute joke.
DO NOT TEXT
Move on

ohiamsodamntired · 18/12/2018 01:28

In the long run dignity will be far more satisfying than anything he bullshits you with

jessstan2 · 18/12/2018 02:39

Agree with above.

I feel sad for you though, he obviously made an impact on you but you were vulnerable having only just broken up with a long term partner.

Chin up girl, you'll get there.

Flowers plus a few [wine[.

Aquamarine1029 · 18/12/2018 03:44

Don't be daft and don't lower yourself. The only thing you'll achieve is making yourself look desperate and pathetic. Just let it go because no "explanation" would ever mean a thing.

PurpleFlower1983 · 18/12/2018 05:22

You’ve had a lucky escape. Walk away and never look back.

Birdsgottafly · 18/12/2018 05:48

You asked him for another chance, when hed cheated months into starting seeing you?

It wasn't a relationship to him. You were one of his hook-ups, who he told what you wanted to hear.

Be honest, you are contacting him in the hope he will tell you he's changed and it's you he wants.

You're badly on the rebound. You do need to work out why you are selling yourself so short and build up your self worth, before you date again.

loubluee · 18/12/2018 06:05

Also Delete his number!

KC225 · 18/12/2018 06:10

Why do you need an explanation? You are looking for a reason to contact him. He is not going to change, he is a liar, a cheat and a manipulator. Delete his number and flush his memories down your mental toilet

orangeapple1 · 18/12/2018 23:06

Thank you all.

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