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ridiculous parking from neighbour

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pinklemonade84 · 17/12/2018 23:08

I’m beyond fed up of this parking situation. This is our situation tonight. Dh is due back from work in about 20 minutes and because of this ridiculous parking from neighbour’s dd, won’t be able to park our Citroen Picasso (not a small car)

We’ve lived here for over a year now and had no problems parking. Last month we had neighbours move in next door and their daughter is absolutely horrific at parking, to the extent where I’ve had to climb over the passenger seat to get into the drover’s seat

They also let their dog out at stupid o clock morning and night and it immediately starts barking!

There’s not even anything we can do as they ignore the door when we knock. They own their house and we rent through a housing association, so there’s not even a landlord we could ask to have a word.

ridiculous parking from neighbour
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Cclmsc · 18/12/2018 07:53

Sounds like you are one of them neighbours that are not happy unless you are moaning about something. Unfortunately they exist in nearly every road.
That car is parked fine it’s not even over the line!

EtVoilaBrexit · 18/12/2018 07:54

Yep. I agree with others. I would park ‘normally’ but a bit tight on her side (what a shame!) and stop her from getting in her car.
She will learn.

How old is your dd?

lilyheather1 · 18/12/2018 07:55

OP: aibu?
MN: Yes, a bit
OP: No I'm not, here's why...

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pinklemonade84 · 18/12/2018 07:56

It will have to be a note at this rate

What people don’t seem to get is that we’ve been able to park with no problems for a year. Ourselves and other ndn have always parked properly to make sure we leave enough for each other to get in and out of our cars. And then all of sudden we get lumped with someone who can’t park properly, who regularly makes it so that I have to climb over the passenger side to get to the drivers side.

Yet I’m the one who’s supposedly bu because they’re within the lines, never mind how much they inconvenience my family

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EtVoilaBrexit · 18/12/2018 07:58

Btw I HATE people who do exactly that in supermarket etc...
You might in with8n the lines but itbstill stops anyone else usingbthat space (clearly lots of people on MN who think it’s ok too...).

I have the same issue at work. Someone came to see me angrily because they couldn’t get in their car. They were parked ‘within the lines’ but in the edge of it. I was parked right in the middle of mine. Apparently I was sooo unreasonable. Until I went to move the car with them and they had to acknowledge that they were the ones who weren’t parked properly....

Now I’m not making any more effort. You want to park within the lines but so close to them? Fine. But you’ll struggle to get in and out of your car. Or you’ll take the risk of me touching your car with my door when I go in and out.

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pinklemonade84 · 18/12/2018 07:59

@EtVoilaBrexit our dd is 2

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EtVoilaBrexit · 18/12/2018 08:00

pink YANBU.
The way that car is parked isn’t ‘wrong ’ Per se but it’s inconsiderate.
And I’m pretty sure she would be very angry if there was any mark in her car because of the opening/closing of the door.
Parking like this means she is basically pushing you out of your space because you can’t use it anymore, unless you din the same to the car next to you.
It’s nit on.

EtVoilaBrexit · 18/12/2018 08:02

The I would make a game out of it and ask her to climb in the seat from the opposite side if she can.
It’s a hassle but only for a few days until the neighbours gets it.
And she will. (See my post above about work. The person who was moaning DID get it wo me having to make a fuss about it)

KnightlyMyMan · 18/12/2018 08:04

OP you sound like a real pain in the ass. Fair enough you can’t afford to move - but that doesn’t give you the right to behave like you live in a detached house with a driveway!

She’s not in your space- she’s just touching the line/ back wheel on the line! The way you’re carrying on you’d think she’d parked in your drive way and shoved her trash through your letter box 😡

What I’m hearing is ‘we need more space to do things exactly how we want to’ - well TOUGH you live with communal parking- I’m not surprised they’re ignorning you I’d probably do the same!

I’m glad to see that the majority agree you’re being insane - yet saddened to see how many are just as pedantic as you!

wishingitwasfriday · 18/12/2018 08:05

Why don't you talk to her? Just explain the problem and ask if could park straight. You've said you taken in parcels and advised on dog walking routes. This shows the you are both capable of having a conversation with each other.

ResistanceIsNecessary · 18/12/2018 08:07

What people don’t seem to get is that we’ve been able to park with no problems for a year. Ourselves and other ndn have always parked properly to make sure we leave enough for each other to get in and out of our cars. And then all of sudden we get lumped with someone who can’t park properly, who regularly makes it so that I have to climb over the passenger side to get to the drivers side.

People DO get it. But the reason they aren't dwelling on that point is because it's irrelevant. You used to be able to park with no issues, but now you can't. You've every right to be pissed off about it but moaning and not doing anything about it is not going to achieve anything, is it?

You've been given options on here - put a note through the door, go in nose first so that it inconveniences her and swap the side of the car seat.

I agree that her parking is inconsiderate - just because she's within the lines doesn't mean that it's reasonable to leave it like that. But if you aren't going to do something proactive about it then you'll have to suck it up.

Seeline · 18/12/2018 08:07

You still haven't actually spoken to your NDN or her daughter about this?
How will the DD know she is causing a problem if you don't speak to her. Surely at some point over a year you have arrived/departed at the same time?
If after having discussed it, and it continues, then go round every time and ask her to move.

Micke · 18/12/2018 08:08

She's probably just not realised that she's causing you any issues - after all, she is within her bay.

Alternatively, perhaps she has to park over so she can get out herself - my MIL does because she can't bend one leg very well, so has to be able to open her door a bit wider.

TBH, bays these days are narrow (I have a vehicle a little wider than yours) - and sometimes I do have to make a choice about which door is going to be openable by which side I'm going to park up to the line, and therefore, so do the people next to me.

MinorRSole · 18/12/2018 08:12

Next time you go round with a parcel don't hold it out to her. Say that you have a parcel but first you need a word. It surely can't be too hard to speak to someone that's right in front of you

GoatYoga · 18/12/2018 08:13

That parking is shit - It makes parking difficult for others who often then have to park badly in the adjacent space. I see this all the time in car parks and avoid where possible parking next to them, as it risks a dint or scratch to your car as they try to squeeze in when they return.

I assume those that are defending the parking are the ones who can't park.

Just park in the bloody middle - it's not difficult!

PoorMansPeppaPig · 18/12/2018 08:15

What people don’t seem to get is that we’ve been able to park with no problems for a year. Ourselves and other ndn have always parked properly to make sure we leave enough for each other to get in and out of our cars. And then all of sudden we get lumped with someone who can’t park properly, who regularly makes it so that I have to climb over the passenger side to get to the drivers side.

Oh jesus OP - take a day off will you! You don't own the next door house and you can't choose who lives next to you - they may wish they didn't have to live next to an anal busy-body who twitches the curtains to check on her husbands parking space half hour before he arrives home!

In short, as much as it's a ball-ache and annoys everyone when people park like this the neighbours DD is in fact legally parked. She is within the white lines which outline her space. Her wheel is not on your space - your husband will simply do what the rest of us do and just park slightly differently for the day. No big deal. We've all passed driving tests and understand how to park so I have faith that he'll survive the ordeal somehow Halo

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pinklemonade84 · 18/12/2018 08:15

@wishingitwasfriday they don’t answer the door when they’re in, unless they know I’ve got a parcel for them, and even then it’s just a quick thank you and the door is shut before I have chance to actually say anything.

It does look like I’m going to be resorting to leaving a note, which isn’t really what I wanted, as I wanted to try and speak to the mum face to face about it and explain why it’s difficult. I really don’t want to resort in tit for tat, however tempting it is

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Pissedoffdotcom · 18/12/2018 08:15

Stuff like this drives me mental. And the attitudes on here just show why it happens...because people go 'fuck it i'm in the lines, who cares?'
The people that care are the ones who can't then open doors properly to get small people out (not being funny but which moron leaves their toddler stood at the side of the car to pull out so they can get access to the carseat? Really??). Or the ones who can't open their doors at all & have to belly crawl across seats. If there is another car on the other side & you have to park between two this selfish parking makes life difficult. We have one of these but in a different scenario; layby where cars park nose to nose, easily get two cars & van or three cars on IF people park right. One neighbour doesn't give a shit & parks wherever she wants meaning we have no space to park except on the road.

People are so selfish & self absorbed nowadays

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pinklemonade84 · 18/12/2018 08:19

@PoorMansPeppaPig so he should adjust his parking to be inconsiderate to our other ndn? Just checking I’ve got that right? As he should have to adjust his parking because ndn dd can’t be bothered to do it right and be considerate of her ndn.

Sorry, but not a hope in hell will he do that! We’ve got on with ndn on the other side for the past year since we both moved in, we’re not going to start doing something to inconvenience them

I don’t actually normally check the parking, but heard a bang and looked out the front. We live next to a dual carriageway, so I was wondering if it was something on there, and that’s how I spotted the parking! Not because I’m curtain twitching to check he has space

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Micke · 18/12/2018 08:21

not being funny but which moron leaves their toddler stood at the side of the car to pull out so they can get access to the carseat? Really??

I used to have to park in a garage which was only just big enough to get in and out of the car within if you parked right up on one side, and still you had to squeeze.

My toddler got to be a bit of an expert at clambering over the seats, and I buckled him once I'd moved forward.

When DS2 came along, I'd have his carseat on the side I could get in at, and again, pop him in his seat, and buckle up once I'd pulled forward.

And the reverse when getting out (although I could unbuckle the baby one-handed, and the toddler learned how to undo himself so I didn't have to stop before reversing in)

Pissedoffdotcom · 18/12/2018 08:22

OP i curtain twitch over parking. Every day. Because if my irritating neighbour hasn't parked properly DP can't get his van in. Which means I then have to move my car once he arrives to allow the van out front (CCTV so safer for the van) & find alternative parking. It takes a bit of coordination because usually the minute one of us moves a guest of over the road takes the space. So yeah, i curtain twitch over parking when i know DP is on route home!!

StealthNinjaMum · 18/12/2018 08:23

I agree with op, this is annoying. Modern parking spaces have got smaller yet cars have progressively got bigger. If I park like that in a public car park I spend a minute moving to a more central position as I know that I could be inconveniencing someone with a child or disability without a blue badge. If it was my neighbour of course I'd be considerate to them!

Biancadelriosback · 18/12/2018 08:32

This place is mad sometimes.
That parking is bad. Yes her rear wheels are sitting on the line making it difficult to park.OP hasn't said it is Impossible. OP has also clearly said that her DHs parking ability is fine, but so what if it isn't? You don't learn to be good at stuff from a bunch of mardy people online telling you you're shit. You get better with practice. I'm not great at bay parking, it usually takes me a couple of back and forths to get in, but I always make sure I am in the middle of my bay. There is nothing stopping the NDN DD from straightening up at the time of parking. She is just inconsiderate.

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pinklemonade84 · 18/12/2018 08:35

@lilyheather1 I wondered when one of those ridiculous, non constructive comments would turn up

Have a look at some of the replies, not everyone thinks iabu to be pissed off about this

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Lovemusic33 · 18/12/2018 08:35

It’s not parked illegally or that badly, he’s not over the line (he’s on the line slightly), I think your looking for problems that are not there. Unless you have a very wide car there should be room to park and get out the car without knocking anything.