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AIBU: landing light?

5 replies

Borelis · 17/12/2018 23:05

I live in a house share and unfortunately the person sharing upstairs with me is a very light sleeper (literally the downstairs kitchen tap dripping very slowly will wake him up).

He usually goes to bed quite early (any time between 7.30pm to 10.30pm-ish). He puts the landing light on as soon as it gets dark and turns it off when he is going to sleep. Obviously, after he's asleep, if I need to go downstairs, I shall put it on to be able to get down the stairs briefly and I usually will switch it off after I'm back upstairs (so the light will only be on 2-3 mins). Yesterday, I forgot to immediately switch off the light (it was about 10.15pm-ish) once I was done as I had to go downstairs twice. He purposely came out and switched off the light and loudly closed his door. He usually tiptoes around and can hardly hear him.

Then he sent me a blunt text telling me to turn off the light after use as the light affects HIS sleep and how he turns it off when HE goes to bed. The thing that grates me is that:
-it's all about him all the time
-no please or thank you at all in his text
-and he will go to the bathroom a few times throughout the night and obviously I can hear him go in, lock the door, flush, use the sink etc. but I don't complain about it waking me up as I realize shared houses come with such compromises.

Also, he doesn't have an early morning start - he basically works from home so can get up whenever, go to sleep whenever and is at home virtually 24/7.

If he was a nice person in generally, it wouldn't be so bad but when he's consistently selfish (yet lacks the backbone to stand up to others in the house and only finds his courage when it's me as I'd always been accommodating in the past), it takes the piss.

I replied saying I turn it off after using it and needed it to go downstairs.

AIBU..?

OP posts:
PickAChew · 17/12/2018 23:09

Tell him to wear a sleep mask.

KeepServingTheDrinks · 17/12/2018 23:14

If he's otherwise a good flatmate, can't you use the light from your phone or something?

As you say, house shares are all about compromise, aren't they.

Maelstrop · 17/12/2018 23:19

So he's disturbing you several times a night? And you go downstairs once? There's no way I'd go downstairs in the dark, I turn on the light because I don't want to break my neck. He too needs to compromise. If he asks again, ask him to stop going back and forth to the bathroom several times a night. Wanker.

Cauliflowersqueeze · 17/12/2018 23:19

If he gets this angry over small things I’d do my best to keep out his way. Nobody needs people like that in their lives.

yerdadsellsavon · 17/12/2018 23:33

Use a torch instead?

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