To report a school coach driver for sexual assault 28+ years later?

[Judeeee]

Back in 1989 through to around 1993 I was repeatedly touched and stared at by the man who often drove my school coach or my friend's coach. He was in his 50s, I was in my early teens. He used to pat or pinch my bottom as I boarded or walked past him. He also often commented on my bottom, turning round to watch me walk past, and even went so far as to hug me one day, touching my chest while doing so.

He stared at me at every opportunity.

He openly read books about rape while waiting to pick up at the school.

As a naive girl I was flattered by his attention and my friends and I used to joke about it. But looking back, I realise how inappropriate and wrong his behaviour was. I don't know if he did similar to anyone else.

I told my DM at the time and she laughed it off, saying it probably made him feel young again.

AIBU to consider reporting this man this far on?

Yes do it. You may be one of many victims sadly.

Yes I would.

Is he still alive? In his 50s 28 years ago?

This is the second thread of this kind today! Is it just bringing back memories for people?

Do you know who/where he is?

Who do you report it to?

What will the outcome be?

Are you likely to be believed?

Is it worth the time & resources that could be dealing with current "provable" crimes?

Report it. Won't do any harm but could do some good.

"He openly read books about rape while waiting to pick up at the school"

I don't understand this statement though. Was he reading a book which featured rape in the story like Sleepers or A Clockwork Orange? That wouldn't bother me as they're good books. If he was reading Rape for dummies (which I hope doesn't exist) I would be.

it's worth a try but don't get your hopes up, he's possibly dead by now if he was in his '50's. your dm was wrong to say what she did but sadly at the time this sort of thing was generally brushed under the carpet. i have a stately homes story that was supposedly my fault when i mentioned it at the time and then years later when i reported to police it was discovered he has died, no case to answer.
have you spoken to anyone, apart from dm, about this, that would be a good start.

Sorry it happened. What outcome would you want? Is it likely reporting will get that outcome? Will it have any negatives for you (time, emotional energy). Think carefully about those and consider contacting a helpline if you want to discuss reporting.

I got in touch with my old school to report a bus driver ten years after the fact. They weren’t particularly interestedly because he didn’t work for them anymore (even though school policies had actually allowed -caused- it to happen)

He openly read books about rape

What books exactly? I find this odd.

Depends. How affected are you by what happened? If not at all, then put it behind you.

If you have anxiety, trust issues or other mental health problems stemming from the trauma of his actions then yes, report it. Be prepared for a lot of interviews, hours sat giving details, also you'll need to give school friends names for them to be interviewed, witness statements --- etc etc. You will be taken very seriously and resources will be used to their best effect.

Thanks everyone for your replies. What happened has been on my mind quite a lot recently and I don't think he should be able to get away with it, although it may well be too late now.

I don't know if he's still alive or where he lives if he is still alive. I don't know if it would be worth the hassle of interviews etc if he is still alive and it may well be my word against his unless I can find out if any other girls were also affected.

I didn't actually see the books he read, but he did read quite a lot and was told by another girl that they were about rape, and she said he's a dirty old man.

Many of his colleagues were also a bit creepy, e.g. staring/leering at teenage girls, but didn't touch them AFAIK.

"My, what a pert little behind you have" was just one of the things this disgusting man said to me...at the age of 15

"My, what a pert little behind you have"??

TenForward82 yes that is one of the things he said to me

personally i think it would be best to talk to someone about this and learn to deal with it let go, there probably won't much that can be done now, rehashing and requoting things on here are only going to renew the bad memories, am speaking from experience.

After so many years no i don't think you should. Not sure what you would hope to achieve?

I do think you should talk to someone so you can deal with it and move on

I have just found this thread suggested under another one. Just wondering if @Judeeee reported him?