PIL live a 30 minute drive away and are in their mid/late fifties.
Every time they need a favour or a comment is made about something to do with the house/dc etc it's always me they refer to/ask. I'm the one with all the time apparently, even though I'm at home with a 2 year old and a baby, breastfeeding the baby constantly and during the night still, no family support.
Our 2 year old also has hearing issues and a speech & language delay so tantrums are quite frequent and difficult as a result.
I've had messages about what I'm buying/making for the Christmas lunch. DH invited them, they're his parents and he's more than capable of sorting some bits out.
I've had a request to go and get some food shopping because MIL has hurt her wrist and can't lift bags. So I've been asked to go and get some bits which with a toddler who refuses to go in a trolley or buggy at the moment and a baby is a fucking horrible task. Online shopping is my friend for this reason...
I've said no for the first time ever as the dc are unwell, I've pulled my back and had about 3 hours sleep and received a passive aggressive reply.
Thankfully DH corrects them immediately as it really pisses him off. He thinks in his words "that it's plain old sexist bullshit and needs to stop".
Part of me thinks that he's right but then the other part of me thinks that they've just forgotten what it's like having 2 little ones and because I'm home, they think I've got all the time in the world.
Interested to hear other people's opinions and wondering if it's just PIL that are like this! Or do people really think that being a SAHM to a 2 year old and a newborn is a piece of piss?