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Why would she send this? Interview

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TillyMouse7 · 17/12/2018 09:37

So I'm sure many of you have seen my previous post. In a nutshell again, I am job searching and have had a few interviews recently.
I have got a job (not the job I would like but something I suppose - I have been unemployed for 5 months so grateful for anything) But! There is this job I interviewed for last Tuesday. It's a great job, it's exciting, it's challenge, it's in the right industry for me, it's just brilliant! So interview was last Tuesday, went well I think but I was nervous. On Wednesday I emailed my interviewer saying thanks for her time, it wasn't a begging email it was a short/sweet thank you and just pointing out in one sentence that I'm interested in the job.
This morning I got an email from her saying they are interviewing more people tomorrow and will be in touch by the end of the week.

I never got an email like this before. Why would she send something like this? I mean it's great don't get me wrong and really appreciate it but not sure what to answer? Has it happened to anyone else before? My heart literally jumped out of my chest and been thinking about this job since last Tuesday. I can't cope. Wine on Monday morning too much 😂?!

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TillyMouse7 · 17/12/2018 10:40

I had a previous post about whether I should send or not send a thank you email after the interview. Loads of people said don't do it, others said do it. Well it felt right for me to do it. I don't think it did any harm, it was not desperate. I don't know why some posters comment about it as this thread is not about whether I should email after the interview or not. And also what are you suggesting @strawberrisc? I travel back in the and don't send the follow up email?! I really don't see how your comment is constructive or helps in any way regarding this thread. I so wish there was a way somehow on Mumsnet to show how useful the advice posters give. And no I am not saying everyone has to say what I want to hear... I am saying some comments are just utterly unnecessary 🙄

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Bluntness100 · 17/12/2018 10:43

Op, you did the right thing. I suspect those who are saying otherwise have never interviewed in their life and are clueless.

Almostthere15 · 17/12/2018 10:49

Oh bless you, you sound so frazzled. As an outsider here's what happened. You did an interview, sent a nice email and she sent one back. Easy to say, but of course when it's your own situation you massively over think it. Her email is basically setting your expectations re timeline.

Now you've got that horrid wait. But you'll be fine. It's just hard waiting, I've been there. Fingers crossed for you.

crimsonlake · 17/12/2018 10:52

I have attended a lot of interviews and they have mainly been competency based. In these instances it does not appear to make any difference how keen you appear as it is all based on point scoring. In my last one I was told I would be a great fit for the company during feedback but the job went to someone who had scored 3 point more. Do you know what style interview it actually was? There is always conflicting advice about sending a thank you for your time email, but personally I do not believe it will sway anything. They told you when they would let you know, you just have to sit it out. Hope it goes your way.

AsleepAllDay · 17/12/2018 10:54

Your email wasn't odd - I send thank you notes after job interviews and even if it's a transparent politeness at least do it

Let them get back to you, no need to reply

Canibuildasnowman · 17/12/2018 10:55

You did the right thing, I’ve discounted interviewees for not sending a thank you note or email. The response you got back was a polite acknowledgment. Good luck!

mumsastudent · 17/12/2018 11:04

on the negative side if you don't get this job if I were the employer I would welcome you applying again if another job came up - so I think your courtesy can only be viewed as a positive attitude. Good luck op

GodrestyemerrySchadenfreud · 17/12/2018 11:06

My heart literally jumped out of my chest

Really?

LITERALLY?

Xmas Hmm
Bluntness100 · 17/12/2018 11:14

Really?LITERALLY?

Ffs, have you never wanted anything badly and been waiting for a response? Stop being so petty and mean.

Thentherewascake · 17/12/2018 11:17

you are completely over thinking it, and do not reply.

She is just being kind and giving herself too much work, but it means nothing - one way or another - about the role. Your original email was absolutely fine, and at least half the candidates send the same anyway.

Thentherewascake · 17/12/2018 11:20

Literally Grin

Why would she send this? Interview
Riotingbananas · 17/12/2018 11:30

Just to reassure you OP, it isnt odd or desperate to send the email you did, ignore posters who say it is. It's perfectly normal to do it and the recruiter wont think it was odd or that you are desperate. Flowers Everything crossed for you.

Ated · 17/12/2018 13:38

People who send follow up emails or who phone in asking for feedback look and sound desperate. Get agency details and send a cv with a short covering letter. -You send this to every job agency you can find and wait for the responses which are in the region of 1% for job offers, 1% rejections, 1%, we'll hold your details on file and 97% into the bin.

Toughtips · 17/12/2018 13:44

Ignore those being petty and rude. Good luck to you and I hope you get offered the position.

I wouldn't think someone desperate for a simple thank you email.

Waiting on hearing back is the worst. But sit tight.

Kisskiss · 17/12/2018 13:45

Good luck op!

Last2Know · 17/12/2018 14:01

I am in management. Absolutely nothing wrong with sending that email.

Definitely do not send another one though. She was just being polite

GodrestyemerrySchadenfreud · 17/12/2018 14:06

Stop being so petty and mean.

Petty and mean is my raison d'etre Bluntness

Try getting a mild sense of humour. Xmas Grin

Bluntness100 · 17/12/2018 14:12

Well to be fair, being petty and mean does brighten the day,,,🤣

GodrestyemerrySchadenfreud · 17/12/2018 14:13

It does Bluntness

It does Xmas Grin

NonaGrey · 17/12/2018 14:15

OP, it’s just a standard holding email. She’s just being polite, it doesn’t mean anything either way.

It’s not bad or good. You’ll just have to wait and see I’m afraid.

Best of luck!

TillyMouse7 · 17/12/2018 14:17

Okay, I don't get the 'LITERALLY ' joke. I'm not a native English speaker so can someone explain? 🙄
Regarding the follow up email, I appreciate everyone's point of view. I understand why one would send or wouldn't send a thank you email after the interview. Just to clarify I felt it was the right thing to do. Also it wasn't though and agency or a recruitment company. I directly applied for the job to the company which has a tiny branch in London (only 3 people) . It was an informal interview and I was nervous. I wanted to make sure I showed interest and also thank for their time as I can't remember if I Said thanks for their time the interview (I know right, but I was nervous and pff )
See what happens. I have calmed down a bit and trying to distract myself. It's a difficult situation for me and apart from the job hunting there is so much shite happening in my life I just need a little success.

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Thentherewascake · 17/12/2018 14:20

I am not a native English speaker either!

Literally means taking a word in the exact meaning, without metaphor or exaggeration. He is literally deaf means just that: he is deaf, he cannot hear. I am literally choking means I cannot breath, I am dying.

It's being used to mean things that are not literal in the slightest. Sometimes as a joke.

Bluntness100 · 17/12/2018 14:23

Op, I don't want to get your hopes up just in case but rhe realiry is she didn't have to respond, and if she did feel the need she didn't have to go into so much detail. So she took a bit of time. Sure another better candidate could come along, but I would look at it as a positive.

icelollycraving · 17/12/2018 14:41

I think she was polite but I personally would think if they are seeing more people, you may not be their first choice.
Obviously hope I’m wrong and you get your dream job though.

TillyMouse7 · 17/12/2018 15:50

Yeah I don't see how her email is negative or positive at all! Honestly I think she just let me know whatever is going on because that's what she wanted to do.
They told me on the interview that they are interviewing people after me. I think that's fair enough if someone has been arranged for an interview they don't just cancel cause they think they found the one . I would as an employer do the interviews that have been arranged even if I think the first one is the right candidate.

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