To think Christmas is just another thing to have to think about

[Torple]

Have posted before, am in an unhappy marriage, house is a shitheap (which is part of the reason for the unhappy marriage), I suffer from depression, OH is lazy, things have spiralled.
We have two kids, both at primary school.
I have bought all their presents, that’s it.
Nothing for parents, nephews, nieces, etc. Nothing’s wrapped, the tree isn’t up because there is too much junk in the way, no decorations anywhere, we’re going to MiL’s for Christmas under much protest because I wanted to stay at home for the first time ever, but she threatened to never speak to DH again, so he buckled.
I just feel like I can’t be arsed with it, but obviously, kids.

OH has had two weeks off work, not enough has been achieved to make things better, now I have work till Wednesday and the kids are off from Tuesday so I am running out of time.

Please, someone, reassure me it’s not just me that’s this unorganised or unenthusiastic?

I'm not surprised you're not enthusiastic. Is this what you expected from marriage?

I’d prob ignore the “D”H and focus on the kids.
While they are at school, pick a space for the tree and bung all the stuff that’s currently in it into a box marked “from living room” ( or whatever room it’s ftom!) and set it in husbands side of the bed.
After school on Tuesday let the kids decorate the tree however they want ( it’ll keep them busy and they will feel useful!)
Can you kid yourself that MIL is saving you the hassle of cooking?

I know what it’s like to deal with the resentment of a partner, and I’m a bit bah humbug due to the overwhelming consumerism of Christmas but with small kids I make the effort to do it. I don’t want them to look back and think I didn’t care! ( I’d happily just do a few strings of fairy lights- I find the glow v comforting and disguises piles of clutter ;) )

Amazon prime all the gifts - lunch hour? ( tempted to say tell H to do it but I’m sure you’d feel better doing it yourself!) And have the kids help you wrap them while watching a Christmas movie.

What Edhelpls said about the tree.
Presents for the family: Chocolates or wine for the adults and a selection box with a tenner each for the children.
Put up with the Mil for Christmas Day, spend a lot of the day playing with your children/in the bathroom on MN/offer to wash up ALONE in the kitchen after lunch with the radio and a glass of wine-take your time.
Spend you time planning how to get rid of DH in the new year and enjoying next Christmas in a tidy house with your children, doing whatever you want, and no presents to buy for his lot.