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AIBU to want to spend Xmas alone

11 replies

emmagreen481 · 16/12/2018 22:00

Bit of a back story -
I’m 30 weeks pregnant with my first baby. Me and his dad aren’t officially together at the moment, but are speaking. He already has plans for Xmas with his family. I live alone and don’t drive.
Sister has asked me round for Xmas, she lives 3 hours away on public transport. I have a midwife appointment on Xmas eve at 1pm so would be travelling after that. Sister has 2 kids and is going out on xmas day to church, then to the vicars house for dinner and celebrations from 10.30am to 4pm. I’ve been invited along but I suffer with social anxiety, and the thought of being around strangers for that long terrifies me. It’s not like I can just put my earphones in and pretend I’m not there, I will actually have to talk to them. Also the long journey is putting me off. It’s 3 hours (a bus then coach then walk) on Xmas eve.. when I will probably just end up staying at hers whilst she’s out and being alone anyway.
My mum has also invited me, she lives half hour away but the house is dirty, and her and her partner smoke in the house. I’d be sleeping on the sofa with the dogs so that’s a definite no.

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WorraLiberty · 16/12/2018 22:04

YANBU. Why not do something nice for yourself instead?

M&S buffet food (depending on your finances)

Favourite soft drinks

Favourite chocolates/sweets/crisps

And a nice new pair of PJs and fluffy socks

Then plot up in front of the TV all day and chill

emmagreen481 · 16/12/2018 22:05

This is what I’m thinking, and I’m planning on treating myself for Xmas as I’m not expecting anything from anyone this year. Just feel bad for turning everyone down

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GColdtimer · 16/12/2018 22:09

Don't feel bad. Just have a lovely treat filled day in peace. As long as that's what you want to do, or at least is the best option for you, embrace and enjoy. X

ChristmasFlary · 16/12/2018 22:12

Sounds perfect to me! Do what you need to do for yourself

happyasasandboy · 16/12/2018 22:17

As a mum of three with an extended family I think your Christmas sounds divine.

I wish I could join you!

tootiredtospeak · 16/12/2018 22:24

Give over you will never have a better excuse. Your pregnant amd hormonal. Put your feet up and enjoy.

PostmanBos · 16/12/2018 22:27

Just tell them you are feeling too tired and unwell to go out and just want to rest.

SleepingStandingUp · 17/12/2018 00:11

This time next year you'll have a 10 month old. Enjoy the peace any way you want to

Leeds2 · 17/12/2018 00:14

I don't think YABU at all. It sounds lovely.

HollowTalk · 17/12/2018 00:16

Don't feel bad. Treat yourself and have a lovely time. Come on here if you fancy a chat.

stillreadviz · 17/12/2018 00:26

Exactly what Worral said xx

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