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AIBU?

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Not sure if cf or if iabu

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Foamybanana93 · 16/12/2018 21:35

So basically won a very nice Xmas hamper from work, quite expensive and thought would be a lovely gift for grandparents for Xmas from me and oh, we would never spend that kind of money on something like this, asked my sister if she thought grandparents would like it, she replied yes and that I can put her name on it and also my brothers name so that they doesn’t have to buy them a present and it can be from me, oh, my sister and my brother.

They both earn more money than me and money is not an issue at all, if she hadn’t of known I’d won this hamper they would have gone out and bought them something each individually.

aibu for not wanting to put their names on it 🤔

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HildaZelda · 17/12/2018 00:05

Until recently I didn't realise that CF stood for 'cheeky fucker'. For some reason I thought it was 'cunty fucker'.
They're being both!

Disquieted1 · 17/12/2018 00:09

Wow! 'A' grade CF uckerry.

LiquoricePickle · 17/12/2018 00:10

They're definitely CF. Could they buy something to go with it and then make it joint? Champagne? Tablecloth? Christmas tableware? Perishables depending on what's in the hamper? (Like cheese if the hamper has chutney)
Are you planning on telling your grandparents that you won it?

AornisHades · 17/12/2018 00:13

Surely DH has suggested it for his parents? Best they sort their own gift out in case you decide to give it to them.

Shednik · 17/12/2018 00:14

I'd have offered before my sister asked!

Do you want your parents to have the nice present, or do you just want the credit for it?
Are you in competition with your sister?
Don't you want to help your sister out at Christmas?
It sounds like you view her as a rival rather than a member of the same team. Which isn't how I feel about my sister.

shiningstar2 · 17/12/2018 00:21

I think your sister does have a cheek. You were giving up something lovely to give a real treat to grandparents and also save some money. Would have been great. However I think your sister would tell GPs it was won if you don't share which might take the edge of their pleasure.

I would say you've changed your mind now and keep it for yourselves. You can then spend your usual amount on GPs. That way you get the treat you won and your GPs get their usual 3 presents.

You had a lovely idea op but it wouldn't be nearly as special for GPs if it was between all of you.

sollyfromsurrey · 17/12/2018 00:32

I'd tell her you have changed your mind and are giving the hamper to someone else. Or keeping it for yourself. Then gift it to your GP afterwards anyway.

When she questions it, just say 'oh you know, I was so busy in the end that I didn't have a chance to find GPs a present so I reverted to my original plan....'

whatwouldyoubelikeat28 · 17/12/2018 00:36

It's strange this idea that the GP's are 'losing out'. Just share the gift, and the goodwill, who needs piles of individual presents every birthday and christmas, consumption is out of control these days.

Chucky16 · 17/12/2018 00:55

Your ds is a CF. Tell her, and brother, to buy own presents for dgps. If ds won £1000 in a raffle would she split it equally with you and db?? Bet she wouldn’t and this is the same, you won so it’s yours alone to do what you like with it. I would tell dgps you won it though as sister will probably do so if you don’t. I’m sure they will be delighted and think that, even though you won it, is was lovely that you thought of them to receive it.

ThePants999 · 17/12/2018 01:52

Go with it, but next year it's her turn to buy the present and put your name on it!

moredoll · 17/12/2018 02:00

Laugh and say tight git get your own present!

^This

YoThePussy · 17/12/2018 07:29

OP, has your sister got history for this type of thing?

My sibling does this. Every year. Without fail. ‘You can get the presents for xxxxx members of the family. Oh write a card from us both too’. Says they will give half and never does. No good telling them it is their turn this year as nothing will be bought.

MumW · 17/12/2018 08:43

If they don't cough up why do you continue to do it?

RandomObject · 17/12/2018 08:56

If it's a really nice hamper it would make a nice joint present - I would maybe ask them to chip in with some little stocking fillers so that they have contributed? They are being cheeky but at the end of the day, you also didn't have to pay for the hamper (although it's lovely of you to gift it rather than keep it).

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