Who is being unreasonable me or DH ( generous gift )

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This is quite long and will try not to drop feed.
We recently attended a party with my DD( 5)
It was organised for children in palliative care / life threatening illnesses.
There was a few sportsman there / gold medalists who were very nice.
One in particular took a shine to my DD now I never discussed with him what was wrong with her and know he didn’t previously know as he asked me if she was one of the sick ones or a sibling ( he wasn’t the best with words ) he did also hug me a lot ha
Anyway lateen in he gave her an extra present and said to the nurse I know we should have favourites but she is mine.
Then anyway he dissapeared for a while.
When he returned he asked me for a minute and took me in to another room and have been me a card. It wasn’t until after I realised it was a voucher for 100 pound.
So anyway on the way home a friend had messaged me saying he had publicly wrote a post on his social media about DD with a picture of them both.
She had shared this and then he messaged her giving her his details to pass on to me if we ever needed anything.
He then started following my Twitter and retweeting all my posts.
He then messaged me asking if me and daughter ever wanted to go to a football match.

So anyway I think he may just over friendly haha
My DH either thinks this isn’t about DD and he took a liking to me ( daughter didn’t really speak to him tbh wasn’t like she took to him )
Or that it’s slightly creepy why he chose one child out of a whole bunch. ( my daughter isn’t obviously disabled and probably looked considerably healthy composted to others ) so he said he wouldn’t of been due to sympathy.
I think his being over cautious and a bit jealous 😂🤣

That’s exactly also what I said that it was probable just for media / grand gesture etc
I was just thrown back at his reaction.
I also would never ask him for fundraising or donations ( we don’t raise money etc ) just awareness.

Possibly he felt uncomfortable with the children who were more obviously sick or disabled, and homed in on your DD because he found her easier to approach? I don’t mean that to sound in any way disrespectful to the other children there, just that some people don’t really know how to speak to children in that sort of situation. He may have been obliged to attend this party and not known quite how to behave.

I don’t think that a £100 voucher is anything remarkable in the situation. Yes it is generous but the kind of people who donate that can more than afford it, so it’s all relative.

I’d imagine he is either nice, your DD reminds him of someone, or he wants the publicity of looking like the good guy.

what the heck - 'is your husband the jealous type' ? what has that got to do with anything ? this guy is making a big show of gifts, photos on social media and football matches. if i was op's husband i'd be angry not bloody jealous ! what would the response be if it was a man that was approached ? the cow smoozing up to dh and dd ? op would probably be angry and rightly so.

I think sometimes the reality of having a child with a life-limiting illness can just hit you and you want to do anything you can to help. I wouldn't see it as anything more than this. And surely by posting on Twitter he's giving the cause some publicity?

If your aim is to raise awareness of lesser known illnesses and he is retweeting your posts, I'm assuming he is attempting to help. Same as a trip to the football, this is probably something he regularly offers. Maybe he doesn't know you have a partner.

I would just relax and back off. See if he continues to keep in touch. Likely he will be harmless.

If this was at Alder Hey you’re lying.

Not - why?

No players management etc were left completely alone with patients or families.

Players are told prior to do everything via the charities including giving money/offering tickets etc so stuff like this doesn’t happen...

Pretty much every child was photographed too and permission requested to upload onto their social media accounts.