Is this too soon?

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Dh and ex have a son.

Precisely 14 weeks ago (I know this because it was my birthday) dss was collected from our house by his mother's boyfriend. About a week after this they split up. They had been on and off for about 18 months.

Today, 14 weeks later, the new boyfriend has dropped dss off at our house. Dh had never met him. Got a call from the ex this morning saying dss would be dropped off by the new bf and they had already set off.

Dh not happy and think it's way too soon for someone so new in his life to be doing 'parenting jobs'. They barely spoke during the drop off as new bf couldn't get away quick enough. Dh would of liked to of introduced himself and had a quick chat so he has at least an idea of what the latest bloke who is around his son is like.

What do you think?

I think that sucks and I'd hate it but I don't think there's anything he can do.

@Oysterbabe nope there's absolutely nothing he can do about it. Not a thing. It's just really really crap. The new bf has kids and they've all been introduced. It was only September when the last bf was about.

I absolutely hate this happening to kids and thoroughly disagree with what the law says - it's up to the other parent who they trust the child with when in their care.

It's totally different to childminders as the new partners are not DBS checked or trained and obviously have a skewed sense of boundaries to plonk themselves straight into a kids life as a "parent figure" so fast

But there is little you can do while you're aware your kids can get really emotionally damaged

What age is the child?

He's 5

I've been with his dad for 4 years so been with dss since he was 1

Poor little man. His mum doesn’t sound too sensitive to his needs.

Way too soon, so irresponsible. Poor kid.

All you can do is provide a stable and caring environment as best you can.

Thanks all, glad other are with us on this one

I have been with DH 9 years. My stepkids mum is on live in bright number 8 since I have been on the scene.

Nothing you can do except be a constant yourself.

*boyf

Thanks everyone x