Is DP being degrading?

[asob]

Name changed for this.

I went to leave the house before, it's raining.
I put on a white long sleeved t-shirt and he started looking me up and down, turning his nose up and muttering under his breath 'pouring down outside but okay...'
I obviously put on a coat and zipped it but he was still turning his nose up and when I'd ask what his problem was, would be like 'nothing' and sarcastically laugh.
It's not the first time he makes a comment about stuff I've been wearing, he has previously got arsey if my top is a bit baggy or if I don't wear a bra even under a few layers.

Is this degrading??? To be honest I don't even know where to start with this with him because I believe it's awful behaviour and attitude from a man and he just doesn't accept it, or will apologise and do the same in a few weeks.

AIBU?

Also, any comments about what you're wearing that aren't compliments are his attempt at coercive control.

Been there, got the Ex to prove it.

God he sounds like he's one of the mean girls, yet he's a grown man. Honestly I don't know how you live with the little bitch. Honestly cringing for him.

LTB

I would be puzzled if my DH only wore a long sleeved tshirt under his coat in cold wet weather.

Why? Surely it's up to the individual to sort out what they want to wear and how much they need to wear to be warm enough?

As others said, coercive control. It's patterns of behaviour which are used to control you and strip away your sense of self. It starts very subtly, a comment here, a look there. You stop doing things he doesn't like and change your behaviour in order to keep him happy. Only then he moves the goalposts and it's something else that upsets him. And you spend your life tiptoeing around him walking on eggshells, confused over whether it's him or you. Not living, just existing.

He sees you as his property.

If he hasn’t already hit/raped you it’s only a matter of time before he does

He sounds exhausting
Can you really be bothered with this rubbish?

BanginChoons that is such a good description of how it starts. asob, does that sound familiar? Does he like your friend or does he slag them off so you gradually see less of them? Does he stand in doorways and not let you pass? Do you get barged, or pinched a bit harder than is comfortable?

All these little things add up.

Is this degrading??? To be honest I don't even know where to start with this with him because I believe it's awful behaviour and attitude from a man and he just doesn't accept it

He doesn't accept it because it's only natural and normal to want your car, your shed, your laptop, your bookshelf, your wallpaper, whatever to look and function exactly as you want it to - and mutter if it goes wrong or doesn't act in exactly the way you require and expect it to. They're just YOUR possessions that YOU control and have complete autonomy over, so why ever would that be wrong to get annoyed if they don't utterly delight you and do what you dictate they should at all times?

Do you see where this is heading....?

I can't imagine rolling my eyes or commenting on anything someone wore. If I really thought what my boyfriend was wearing was in some way inappropriate I would find a way of saying what I was worried about directly, and kindly.

OP why do you have to even ask?
As he deleted your self confidence completely?