Not stepped in here for a very long time but I really am in a dilemma and need advice.
So brief history DD4 has a different dad to my other 3DC.
I'm remarried, happy and everyone gets on fine overall.
However DD4 dad EXP has been in a relationship for the last two years, I found out around a year ago, and they are looking at moving in together next month and are engaged.
I don't know much about her except she has some health issues and did have two children, that's it.
She no longer has her children, there is no sign of them on her social media (except for her cat she calls a daughter) and my EXP has avoided the whole conversation since.
DD4 has been introduced but doesn't have regular contact with her.
EXP has already said when he moves in with her he will still have DD at his mums and he doesnt plan to really mix his two separate lives.
AIBU to want to know why she doesn't have her children when she's going to be involved with mine?
EXP mum picked DD up the other day and I asked her why as EXP is avoiding the conversation and she had no idea the girl even had children.
The problem is it doesn't work like that unfortunately my health is also bad and I'm looking at 10 years left so DD4 would probably want to live with her dad in the future.
He is marrying a girl and trying to keep the whole thing seperate from his daughter.
So now I've been deleted from Facebook and he is avoiding any conversation.
Am I right to be suspicious?
I want to tell him outright that he can only have DD4 at his mums until I know the truth.
AIBU?