Being totally unreasonable - babies!

[justanotherchristmaspudding]

Arghhhhhhh!!!!!! I am being ridiculously unreasonable.... am completely and utterly blessed to have 3 children.... had 3 pretty awful pregnancies on medication and unable to eat etc (nowhere near as bad as some but hated pregnancy) I really struggle with the newborn phase until the baby reaches 6 months at least, all 3 of mine have had feeding difficulties and sleeping issues. I am 100% done with populating the world and never wish to have another pregnancy or child..... but............

I keep seeing pictures of children with their newborn siblings and get a little pang... then I hear someone is pregnant or about to give birth and I get another pang..... ugh want the pangs to go away!!! I never want another child! I know I am being totally unreasonable!

Same here. But then I look at the people with pushchairs, change bags, high chairs, cots and think naa, can’t do that again.

I’ve accepted that this will never go away for me

You’re welcome to borrow my newborn between about 1am and 5am. That should fix it ;)

I've been feeling this a lot lately. My second, and last, is about to turn 1 and the desire for another is strong. His birth and the days after were just wonderful and I keep thinking about it and reliving it all the time. Plus he's just the sweetest, loveliest little boy, how could I not want another 10 the same? Another would be the wrong decision though. We don't have the space, money, time or energy. Plus the relationship between the 2 we have is so nice, I wouldn't want to alter that dynamic.

@Stephisaur oh this gives me shudders and my children still wake in the night so that's why I'm being totally unreasonable!!!

@LucieMorningstar and I've still got all that in my life!!!

@Thehop how old are your children?

Just wait 20 years and you'll be able to be an overbearing grandmother! :D

@Oysterbabe totally reasonable to want 10 😂 it's crazy isn't it!! I also think fondly of my last baby's birth..... weird!

@BeanTownNancy 😂 that made me chuckle!!!! This is so true, although I have boys so probably won't get the chance to be too overbearing.. damn!

Me too and I DEFINITELY don't want another baby. Mine are 8 and 10!

Same.

I like to think of it as exactly the same mental process as craving food I'm not hungry for or couldn't possibly eat all of. Like a whole cake or someone else's dinner when I've already eaten.

My brain instinctively says "WANT" and my body and rational mind says "NO WAY".

@Mookatron so why the pangs? I'm scared the pangs will trick me into having another baby!!!!! Definitely do NOT EVER want another EVER EVER EVER!!!!!

@Nitw1t ah now that's a tricky one as I have a very unhealthy relationship with food and I'd definitely try to eat the whole cake even if I had just had dinner 😂😂😂

Ah. Just clocked your user name just another

I think it's just the 'specialness' of it for me.. the snuggling on the sofa for hours on end, and people being all solicitous because you're pregnant or have a newborn, and the milky cuddly warmth of it all. BUT in reality I actually never liked it much, breastfeeding hurt, and I used to feel really restless as well as the lack of sleep. So it's just a biological trick I reckon .

@Nitw1t very ironic, could fill a whole thread with that (eats Christmas chocolates whilst typing....)

@Mookatron yes! I didn't like it much either, it seems like a lovely idea but....

Aw. I love seeing other people's.newborns and always coo over them (from a distance, not in a mad way or leaning over them etc) when I see them.

Sorry - but I don't want any more! With the broken nights and aaaahhh!

And the physical dependence. I don't like that. I've very claustrophobic and find it hard when you don't have your bodily autonomy iyswim.

@blackteasplease I don't even really like other people's newborns 😂 they're cute and everything but meh! Yes totally agree with you on the physical side of things!