AIBU to got to a meeting on DH's birthday?

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It's DH's birthday tomorrow. We've just spent a lovely long weekend in Paris, home tonight and we'll both be back to work tomorrow.

I am a school governor and we have an emergency meeting called for tomorrow early evening. I feel I have to go as there are lots of things going on with the school and the academy head is coming to the meeting to talk with us.

DH is going off on one about it saying it's not fair to leave him on his own with the DCs for a few hours on his birthday. But he's an adult, we've had a big weekend trip, we'll have a little 'party' when the DCs get in from school. Surely he can suck it up. My birthday is just like any other day!

Yanbu he's a grown up and work is important

WTAF?
Yanbu

What is he? Six?

Hahaha you've just had a weekend in Paris and you are questioning this?!?! YANBU!

YANBU. It’s an emergency meeting.

Is he 5?
Is he going to work himself on his birthday?
Is he complaining about not being centre of attention or having to look after his children for a couple of hours ?
He’s a grown up and a father.

Yanbu It's an emergency meeting - as a governor you have a duty to go. Seems odd that anyone would make a fuss about this especially considering you have just been celebrating his birthday in Paris!

Utterly pathetic. He needs to grow the fuck up.

He sounds ridiculous, and I say that as someone who enjoys a fuss and always celebrates Birthdays!

What's he getting for his birthday? Playmobile and a hey duggee birthday cake.

He's acting like a child, please don't validate this behaviour, you'll only encourage more of the same.

Given that he's just had a weekend in Paris to celebrate his birthday, he is being whiny about this. Is he so lazy as a dad that having sole charge of the kids is unbearable on his birthday?

Are you a parent governor? Surely he should support you in wanting the best for your dc's school.

As much as I make the biggest fuss about birthday, for child or grown up, this is more than ridiculous.

Birthdays don't come in the way of real life. Partner or parent work on people's birthday, on what planet do people give up on all their responsibility because of a birthday?

Is he always such a pathetic manchild?

YANBU.

Okay, you've all confirmed what I was thinking. Might get him a peppa pig birthday cake!!

Honestly - in real life - he's carrying on like this? I couldn't be arsed with an eejit like that. I like birthdays, no-one loves a generic present more than me but life doesn't stop on anyone's birthday. We go to work, kids go to school, sometimes if it's a busy week (my husband's a shift worker) we don't even have cake on the actual day - we just shift it to a day that suits us all. No-one has been scarred for life.

I’d definitely go to the governors’ meeting if I were you.

The alternative is paying homage to the ‘birthday king’ for three hours whilst he sits on a throne ignoring his children and, in his dreams, is fed peeled grapes by the birthday servant (you) before retiring to bed early through a ticker tape parade. You’ll hoover up the ticker tape before you go to bed, of course. Silently, so as not to disturb the birthday king’s precious slumbers.

Good Lord, is he 8?

Both mine and DH's birthdays have fallen on weekdays for the last few years. Clearly we are missing a trick by stamping our feet and tantrumming about having to go into the office on our special days!

Tell him to stop whining and being so bloody childish. And ask him if he seriously expects you to tell the other governors that you can't attend the emergency meeting, because your H refuses to parent his own kids for a couple of hours because it's his birthday?

WTF it’s my birthday in three days and I am in work all day starting at 7 then home to look after DS while DH is on his works Christmas party no doubt till the small hours. I will see DH for an hour in the morning. But I do it without complaint because I am an adult.

It depends what "Going off on one" actually means. Many partners (and I suggest female ones more than others) would express dissatisfaction, sulk, etc: Life is like that. The OP's husband is not the Dhali Llama. Both partners will likely get over it.

I hope it really is a meeting that could not wait until later in the week or next term. You should go to the meeting, OP. After eating a bit of the Peppa Pig cake.