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Re-gifting

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Artmum1234 · 15/12/2018 16:54

My child has been given a gift that she gave to another child as a Christmas present! Minus all the other bits an pieces that where with it. Thinking they've forgotten who gave them the gift and re-gifted. But my child noticed that it was the same gift? Aibu to be a bit annoyed?

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SleepingStandingUp · 15/12/2018 16:55

So it's an open toy with parts missing?

StinkySaurus · 15/12/2018 16:55

Maybe they liked it so much they bought another for your child?

SleepingStandingUp · 15/12/2018 16:56

But then is it missing bits? That's ruder than regifting

Thentherewascake · 15/12/2018 16:57

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itswinetime · 15/12/2018 16:57

They may have got multiple of the same thing! Maybe it was such a favourite they have gone and got more? I wouldn't be to concerned if it's something they have thought about and your dd would like?

PitterPatterOfBigFeet · 15/12/2018 16:58

You mean you know somehow it was the exact gift you gave out? Did the same child give you part of your own gift back or regifted it to a third child who then regifted it to yours?

If it's the former that's very careless of them. If it's the latter maybe the other kids had duplicates or were short of cash and had to regift. It's a bit annoying yes but I wouldn't take too much offence.

Wineandpyjamas · 15/12/2018 17:02

I don’t have a problem with regifting as long as it’s something they know or think the recipient would like and you never know, some people might be low on funds etc.

However to regift something with parts missing is a bit scabby imo.

itswinetime · 15/12/2018 17:03

I don't think the op meant there were bits missing from the present more like they gifted a colouring book and pens and they just got the colouring book back. At least that's how I read it.

JKCR2017 · 15/12/2018 17:07

If you’re going to re-gift you need to be careful. I have eczema so have often re-gifted bath sets - the next Christmas and I’ve re-gifted some aftershave OH got. Never re-gift presents on the same Christmas - I keep for the next and don’t make it obvious and only if the items are in as new condition.

So yeah, I would be annoyed! Re-gifting with parts missing? That’s terrible!

Wineandpyjamas · 15/12/2018 17:09

Ahh @itswinetime - I read it more like a barbie without accompanying pieces or something similar.

Blacktoffeecat · 15/12/2018 17:10

I re gift sometimes- has to be in completely new condition, save for following year and put a post it note on it so you are sure who gave it to you.
I only re gift nice things. Eg SIL has got Jo Malone shower oil this year, I’m a bath person. I doubt she’ll be upset

Chloe84 · 15/12/2018 17:14

yes YABU of course.
Once you give a present, they do what they want with them. They might have a duplicate, and no need for 2.

Also very likely they thought it was a good idea and bought the same one, I have done that many times.

But the gift is missing bits and pieces so it's obvious this is a regift rather than a duplicate.

OP, YANBU, I wouldn't get this child anything expensive for their next birthday.

cardibach · 15/12/2018 17:40

The gift isn’t missing bits and pieces! OP bought other, unconcerned red, buts to go wot( the original present which haven’t been given.

cardibach · 15/12/2018 17:41

Bloody hell that typing is bad.
Other, unconnected, bits to go with*

noffink · 15/12/2018 17:47

Regifting is fine imo. I don't have s problem with it as long as it's not a crap present

sirfredfredgeorge · 15/12/2018 17:49

You mean you know somehow it was the exact gift you gave out?

Ultraviolet pens... that's the trick.

Girlicorne · 15/12/2018 17:56

It might not have been regifted? Someone bought DS a Messi training ball for his birthday last year, he loved it and all his friends are all footie mad so he s bought it for several boys in his class. We still have the original he was given!

Starlight456 · 15/12/2018 17:59

I have regifted some of my Ds’s presents when they were duplicates. I have also re bought gifts he has received.

BackforGood · 15/12/2018 18:02

Agree we need clarification about the missing bits.

If it is a toy / game with pieces missing, then they ABU
If it happens to be the same toy / book / game / activity you gave them, then it is perfectly reasonable.

When mine were little and got duplicates - or sometimes things they didn't want / like - I did used to put a post it on it to say where it had come from though to try to avoid the possibility of regifting a gift back to the original giver.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 15/12/2018 18:03

Apparently Donald Trump regifts - his son, who is the only person in the family with the same initials, got back a gift he had had engraved for his father the previous year! He did point this out to The Orange One, but the Times doesn’t say what Donald’s response was.

Ellisandra · 15/12/2018 18:10

Perfectly opportunity to explain to your daughter than re-gifting means less landfill.

It’s better to not re-gift back to the original person - but, meh, we’re all human. Teach your daughter to laugh about it.

You can even explain that people give gifts that they think will be liked - so her friend will have thought it was good gift. Tell that it’s fine for a recipient not to want a gift and pass it on - and explain that it could even have been a duplicate.

No big deal.

Thentherewascake · 15/12/2018 20:38

I so would love to know why on earth my post was deleted.
Did someone get offended because I wrote that once a gift was yours you could make use of it as you wished?

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