To not send them presents

[Justkeepsmiling12]

Mil and sil live abroad (Europe). Mil does most of the communicating between DH and the family who live near her (sil and her family)

A few years back when we had our 2nd child mil contacted DH and said the family were just buying for adults from now on...fine by us we understand that with 2 DC to buy for it was a stretch for some.

Fast forward to now...we bought sil's 3 kids presents and posted (were UK and it cost as much to post as we spent on presents!!!) And we've got a message from mil asking why we haven't sent sil a present too. She's now saying she never said there was a no adult gift agreement and we have to buy and send something to sil and her husband.

Aibu to say no...we agreed no adults.. and it would cost money we don't have to buy them presents and post, which probably wouldn't be there in time for Christmas now anyway!!!

I wouldn't send presents now anyway no but I'd telling mil to mind her fucking business anyway, you buy who you buy for and it's none of her business

Get your husband to say no to his mother.

Let him tell her his budget has run out as he budgeted for his mother told him.

Let her argue with her son over it.

What is it with some adults who turn into greedy grabby people over Christmas gift giving?

mil contacted DH and said the family were just buying for adults from now on

This is so weird. In most families, if they want to cut back on presents they switch to just buying for the children.

Sorry typo... I meant just buying for children not adults

Have they sent presents for your children and you and your partner?

Leave it for your dh to sort. He can do that by saying no present for adults as agreed.

Have they sent presents for you?

Their presents haven't arrived yet.. but I assume by the complaining that they may have sent presents for us too.

Going to leave it to DH to sort out...but it's so annoying how they said no presents and then all of a sudden they're saying they didn't say it.

There is a history of mil stirring up trouble between us and sil... Like telling sil I didn't agree with some of sil parenting choices. or saying I told everyone sil was pregnant before sil had chance to announce it...even though I didn't find out until it was announced along with everyone else.