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Christmas Play 'seat saving' Loser!

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LegalEagle99 · 13/12/2018 18:27

So I was at DS Christmas performance last week and parents had been queuing to go in from 1.30pm, performance started at 2pm. Anyway, a cluster of us were queuing from 1.30pm including a mum who I'm not friends with but from the little we've chatted over the years, she is a single parent and often isn't able to attend term time things such as awards and assemblies because she can't get the time off work.

Xmas perfomrance was announced in the newsletter from school so plenty of time for me and other parents who need notice to book it off.

So we get there, queue. Doors open at 2pm sharp and we go into the hall, me and this other mum are in the hall and we head to the row of chairs at the front, this 3rd mum, call her B for Bitch, turns around and says 'sorry, this seat and these seats too are reserved, I'm saving them for my mum and dad and DH...' by this time all the other seats near the front have been filled and B is glaring, her parents walk in then and B tells her mum 'this woman has been really rude to me about the seats! I've just spent 2 hours in school photocopying AND I volunteer in class 2 days a week!' B then turns around to working mum and says 'what do YOU do for the school!!??'
Not sure what other mum replied with, my reply would have been quite colourful!

I think people that 'save' seats for others are BEYOND selfish, only think about themselves and have no awareness of others!
I would have said to B, in case she's reading this, you are not special because you volunteer in school you loser! You are not entitled. You are rude and obnoxious and your roots need doing.

Rant over.

OP posts:
HexagonalBattenburg · 13/12/2018 19:26

Like I've said before - I do the sodding PTA, I'm a governor and I'm also one of the regular volunteers doing whatever's needed in classes (from hearing readers to undertaking the post-glitterbomb cleanup I do the lot). I don't get a reserved seat (wouldn't expect to to be fair) - I'm obviously in the wrong school!

AmIRightOrAMeringue · 13/12/2018 19:31

I'd have answered what does your husband or mother do for the school!? In hindsight of course, at the time I'd have just stood and glared at her trying to think of something witty before shuffling off

HexagonalBattenburg · 13/12/2018 19:51

I would have thought of a witty comeback two hours later like normal if we're honest! (Hate that my mind does that)

OvO · 13/12/2018 19:56

Hope you sat there!

I always get a front tow seat no matter when I turn up. The perks of being disabled.Xmas Wink. Our seat are bleachers so the front row is kept free for people with mobility problems. And none are reserved, people are just decent and sit further back without it having to be pointed out to them.

I’d move on in the Ops situation if one seat was saved but not 3, that’s just selfish!

IamSusan · 13/12/2018 20:03

Reasonable to save a seat for your partner, not so for your parents and god knows who.

Also reasonable to give tiny perks to volunteers, if they get a front seat for putting hours in the school, it sounds fair enough. They give hours that benefit all the kids, the polite and adult way to deal with them is to say thank you, if they get big-headed just move on.

I never understand this shitty attitude against volunteers. Do you feel a bit guilty that you don't?

ohamIreally · 14/12/2018 09:20

I hope you didn't move! I'm a single working mother and I have to move a lot of stuff around to manage to get to school events. I would have been fuming if someone had said that to me.
2 years ago I sat behind a woman who had a massive bobble hat on and I couldn't see a thing. I asked her to take it off, which she begrudgingly did, then proceeded to pile all her thick long hair up in a massive bun on the top her head which was bigger than the bobble! The others on my row and I were just Shock

WaitingWatching · 14/12/2018 09:23

People who won't sit next to anyone give me the irrits.

Budge up.

Passive aggressive bun piling is new though!

Cuttingthegrass · 14/12/2018 09:28

Hope you burn the turkey made me chuckle

Mrspotter12 · 14/12/2018 09:32

I was at radiotherapy yesterday and my mum saved me a seat at DDs show because she was there early and I was coming straight from treatment.....
But there was no need for anyone to be rude.

Lydiaatthebarre · 14/12/2018 12:45

Some people are unbelievable. I got on the airport coach once and took the only remaining seat. A couple of stops later the friend of the person I was sitting beside got on the bus (which was now standing room only) and asked her 'did you not save me a seat'?

I don't really agree with volunteers getting the best seats. There can be lots of reasons why a parent can't get involved in the PTA, including because they have to work long hours, have no partner to help out, or are ill or disabled.

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