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AIBU?

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AIBU to be furious?

6 replies

LOTR · 13/12/2018 18:20

Posted here previously but NC for this as it is outing.

Backstory: stepdad died recently. Bio dad has never made much of an effort and sees me twice a year when I chivvy him to see siblings.

He came up for a visit and made repeated comments about my home being too far away during a convo when he said he would be driving my sibling around further distances for competitions (think triple the distance). He also said once a year to visit me was too hard as 'logistics' were difficult.

Got a text saying stepmum 'had wanted chat about stepdad's death' and see how I was'.

Given their VERY low contact, AIBU to be furious as this text which is clearly to ease guilty consciences? WWYD? Tempted to phone to have it out but aware that the high ground is to ignore and tell myself they are just t. Aware I'm probably just pissed because the one who cared died and I'm still stuck with this useless idiot. WWYD?

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LOTR · 13/12/2018 23:35

Bump

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PermanentlyFrizzyHairBall · 13/12/2018 23:37

I'm sorry to hear about your loss Flowers.

I would ignore the text. Don't react in anger and don't waste precious head space on people who have never made the effort for you.

arethereanyleftatall · 13/12/2018 23:41

Really sorry but I don't understand your op. Who is 'he' in third paragraph? Who did you get a text from? Sorry if I'm being dim.

LOTR · 13/12/2018 23:50

Sorry he is bio dad. Got text from stepmum and bio dad....

I can see the reasoning to not react....thanks :)

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arethereanyleftatall · 14/12/2018 00:00

Ok, got it.
Sorry about your step dad.

I wouldn't get angry at this I don't think, it just sounds like they're checking you're ok.

arethereanyleftatall · 14/12/2018 00:05

I only see my dad about twice a year to be honest. It's just his character, he likes his routine; visiting us isn't in his normal routine. I don't think ill of him for it. It is what it is.
I'm just saying in itself, limited visits doesn't make someone a bad person.

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